POST 27 - NO DOUBT, LIFE BEGINS AT 40! #WriteAPageADay

"Agreed..The saying goes..

'Life begins at 40!'

And I concur with that in general as there is some meaning to this saying but not always. At times, I've seen people between 30 and 40 too talking/expressing like people of 50s and above. Seen in such a context, the saying is not that widely correct..

You know.. When I discussed this topic with one of my known very senior citizen, what he said in that context?

'Dear! What you said may be true for some people when they were about to reach 40 say from 37 and above onwards roughly exceptions extending to few years below. But all such cases may not be really out of true maturity but out of something lacking of that!'

I am sure there is something wrong with this senior to say so. At late 60s, he assesses people with him and talks thus. I don't know how people call him a highly matured person. It's not right to think that being senior, he knows everything. Better, we cross check sometimes on what he talks..

I tell you there can't be such great age bar in all these and the statement said is just a generalized statement. For some, maturity can sure come at a young age itself and some may not get that concept even at 50 and above. That's my final assessment!"

Thus was talking a gentleman of early 30s..

Heard later in a private conversation of some of the very senior citizens..

"That person of early 30s, is really a bit insensitive and lacks maturity. For everything almost, he comes forward and says he knows. Knowing is okay and that's not that great, but

When to talk,
Where to talk and most importantly

knowing well that a person of more of his age can't have lesser maturity even if the person had chosen to be dumb in dealing with many issues of life and talking in front of those ages and the issues irrelevant to that age

Itself shows that he is immature the other way and he needs lots of advising not to open his talk thus in certain places!"

Keywords: LIFE, #WriteAPageADay

POST 26 - POINTING OUT #WriteAPageADay

"You know that close cousin of mine.. Last Sunday, we visited the famous.... and this person's house is very close to that place. I rang up to him and said we have come on a holiday to see.... and enquired his welfare.. 

I expected that he would call us home since we came so much distance and in fact went there with a preparation too to see him and spend sometime with his family. But to our surprise, he said he was very busy, just enquired about us and cut the phone!"

"Dear!  This person might have behaved wrongly but forget about the incident and start living your normal life. That's always better!"

"What are you saying, Sir?  How can I forget this? I agree that he was busy and he could not stop his immediate works for me. But is that the way to reply and keep the phone down? He should have at least called us home even though he might be going away on his busy work. Why this min courtesy was lacking with him? I tell you he deliberately did that. It's all very clear here!"

"I agree that you are hurt with all this but still the better way of keeping this relationship is...."

"See Sir, I'm not a saint here to forgive the wrong doings of the other person which hurt me deep. I very much feel here that even if nothing would have been possible too, he could have simply invited us some time later to his house and.... How can he forget his basic duty very much there in our relationship which often every one speaks of?"

"No dear!  I don't mean all that and do what you like since it's your freedom here and you too should behave in a way that he does not take you easy.. 

Leaving that single action remember, 

It is said when one points at the other person with a feeling of revenge, 3 fingers of that person are doing the same to that one reminding the default action in this scenario from that individual.. 

Meaning.. Concentrating on tit for tat.. Are you getting it?"

"xxxxx?"

"What exactly he had done now, you too are planning to do the same at the back of this revenge feeling in you defaulting on yours the same basic duty towards him. If he is very much wrong in such an action, then I can say with a 100% confidence that you too are equally wrong in your such decision.. 

How as an honest listener and adviser I can tick you here as right while striking him off as the wrong doer?

Keywords: POINTING, OUT, #WriteAPageADay     

POST 25 - WHEN I SAY.. 'IT'S A NUISCENCE!'.. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? #WriteAPageADay

When I say.. ‘It's a nuisance!’ 

The words have a deep meaning because there is nothing like ‘nuisance’ in the world around me. The living in total is going on..

As the world lives through dynamic moments of life, I continuously interpret the right of every one and give marks for all behaviors around me..

These evaluations are based on a deep feeling in me that.. ‘I am doing the best, I like rest of the people appreciating me every moment and I should not be pointed out at any time!’ This attitude in me alone brings out the definition of ‘Nuisance..'

When questioned if I were wrong, I may quickly go into my cocoon to say that I was only calling a spade a spade.  The fallacy here is that this spade is not a fixed entity but changing continuously in time..

So, can I pause, look into the dynamic aspects of every situation and give a chance for the other person to express/act in the way he/she is propelled but correct only to prevent any serious damage on either side?

Seen this way, nothing is a nuisance but a passing phase of life and in this scenario, I am only waiting patiently for a Natural Change around me; that’s all!

Keyword: NUISCENCE, #WriteAPageADay    

POST 24 - WHAT TO DO? WHAT NOT TO DO? #WriteAPageADay

“Sir! Presently, most of my day goes in taking Care of my

Body,
Working/Earning,
Family Responsibilities and
Personal Activities around..

Thus, almost I find no time to do what I very much want to do in my life and further I don’t see that happening in coming up future too with this type of life style presently with me.. What's the way?"

“Dear! I agree that ultimately, you should do what you like to do in your life and nothing less at anytime but I've a question here.

Do you really know what you want to do in your life?

I doubt very much as none of us know that so easily and may be almost never too in this life..

What you experience that something you want to do is mostly at a very weak level and is never strongly felt at this moment in you as the other forces in you are too strongly covering up there and they can bring in untold misery if not taken care in time..

In fact, if I can say the other way..

The activities you are presently doing are the ones you really like to do at this moment!

So better we continue doing these endless activities you mentioned mostly thru’ out our life and wait patiently for the Almighty’s Grace to descend on us whatever be the level thru’

A Daily Prayer at the end of the day and thus remain Blessed!

The Great Saint alone could take in one hand Gold and in the other mud and could throw both of them into the Sacred River declaring

“Both are the same to me!”

As I am very much Limited in experiencing such a Great Freedom in me at this moment, it's ever safe for me to do that alone

What our elders have repeatedly told us to do and
What the Scripture have reiterated that one should do i.e.,

What you are doing endlessly today!”

Keywords: WHAT, DO, #WriteAPageADay       

POST 23 - A CARE IN THIS DIRECTION IS MUST! #WriteAPageADay

“Father, we are all grown up and are in mid thirties. We live with families and the associated responsibilities. Still we are finding that you many times point us out and admonish us for certain lapses in our doings. We agree that we do mistakes in life but we are correcting ourselves continuously and are coming soon to the right path.. 

All around us also say that we are capable that way. You see, our own responsibilities force us to learn all these! In fact we are managing from this end to that end without a help. We are managing our works, earning decent salaries, saving monies, reasonably spending and living thus. What else we have to do?”

“Yes My dear! What all you have said is true and I can doubly confidently say that it is more than expected for your ages. That way I am happy.”

“Then what else is there? Why is all this admonishing? Why can’t you take rest and leave the rest to us?”

“You see, what all you have described is the way of living the life.This living is a technique and everyone one sooner or later develops these skills except a few. But, one is rarely aware that life for an individual can see all of a sudden the edge of a cliff in front, take a turn in any direction abruptly or may totally take a ‘U’ turn. 

Are you aware and prepared for these eventualities also in life? 

I should always plan in such a way that I, most of the times, will never encounter an edge in life. Next, if I encounter an abrupt turn, I should move with sufficient precautions to see that the turn is minimum. The last, a ‘U’ turn in life means back to earlier levels which Nature forces me if I do not listen to Her. A discipline here saves me from falling into the ditch of taking a ‘U’ turn at any time!

If you are all truly prepared for these three eventualities, you surely are the ones who need no lessons and further the ones who can teach and guide others. Where do you stand now in this scenario?”

Keywords: CARE, #WriteAPageADay 

POST 22 - PREPAREDNESS IN LIFE.. WHAT'S IT ULTIMATELY? #WriteAPageADay

“Sir, what is preparedness in life?”

“My dear! I always live with my wishful thinking and will be interested as well as will be working to see that it reasonably materializes with restoration of the associated happiness.. 

But happenings around would never match with this wishful thinking except to a certain extent due to timely interventions from my side.. 

Thus, as I plan for a sequence of actions to achieve my wishful thinking, the results are also sequential.. 

The sum total of these results should match approximately with my wishful thinking else I would be restless!

In order to see that one would be able to face the reality of happenings, our elders have repeatedly advised us to take certain specific precautions and impose checks at various stages of living so that I would be able to steer my aspirations as well as modify my actions well in time towards this reality.. 

To have such a control and strength to steer my wishful thinking in the direction of happenings as my life moves on, the plans and pre-actions that I would be doing in total is the 

'Preparedness in my life!'

If I break down the events of my life into stages of achievement, the preparedness invariably exists for each stage of achievement.. 

The cost, time and effort involved in being prepared for each one of these stages would never go waste as that may not fulfill all of my wishful thinking but surely return to me a lot in terms of restored confidence throughout my life!”

Keywords: PREPAREDNESS, LIFE, #WriteAPageADay     

POST 21 - THE GREATNESS OF GOODNESS! #WriteAPageADay

Good people with me are my true close people.. 

I generally do not recognize the greatness of those good people till I face a problem with the so called not good person..

I should remember that all good people too have their own personal beliefs independent of their good behavior.. 

These beliefs vary widely and may not match with those of mine..

When I continuously live or interact with such people over a period of time, the original goodness is slowly forgotten and the above personal differences are seen more and more. The Saying ‘Familiarity breeds contempt’ applies very much here too.. 

Those differences propel me to get off quickly from those good people or if forced to live together will result in continuous strained relations..

When I am thus forcibly off from such people in mental plane, another set of people do take their place in my psychological world.. 

Such people are never basically good as they have captured an opportunity.. 

In that way, I become a pawn in their game and if I look back, it is evident that ultimately, I have come away from the best people around me..

Let me always remember that in life problems do exist, they have got to be resolved, that is why I am here and my time too with me. Let me never get away from good people in this process!

Keyword: GOODNESS, #WriteAPageADay