Sunday, January 21, 2018

THE DAD'S WORRY AND THE MOM'S SURETY!

It was his first day in college.

The dad was a worried man all along.

'For the first time, the boy is leaving home and going away to stay, study and come up in his life in a totally new environment of hostel life. It does truly it's own good to him in ultimately molding the young personality to a certain level of capability from which point he himself can further pursue his living for his betterment.

But equally he'll miss the warmth of his home and love of his parents and siblings for a while. And a certain influence of new life will sure be there and that path is to be threaded carefully without falling into the clutches of the wrong!'

Thus were going on his thoughts and soon the dad had a certain frame work of discipline in his mind of what his boy was expected to do at the college which had the content..

  • 'Your parents have kept a great hope in you that you come up the best in your life. As such they invested their life time earnings on you to come up so. Let you keep up their expectations!
  • You are in an institution which lays a foundation and gives you the direction for you in pursuing your future profession. Let further a good name come to the college that it has turned out the best students! 
  • You are in the process of learning your basic skill here. The start has been made. Let the initial phase go well. This skill can make a beginning no second time!
  • You should remember that a college gives a basic certificate on conduct which will be asked by your first employer without fail. Make sure your Principal writes there ‘good’ before signing!
  • Your college is a place to start interaction with peers. It is great but is complex. Beware of peers’ pressure beyond! 
  • Your college is a place of start of learning the social behavior as you get into young adult life. Make a note and learn all the required etiquette!
  • You are likely to involve in certain adventurous life during this period. Let the adventures all be safe and let them be approved by your parents basically!
  • You are likely to exert a lot during this period. This is to be equally supported by nutritious food and proper rest/sleep simultaneously!
  • Your society and culture around are to be surely supported by you and your age group young people all round. There are many great values around us. A few may not be the right ones. Respect the age old culture with modifications here and there to improve the same to suit your times. Never try to get away from your culture at any point of time!
  • Believe in God. All is well that ends well. The Doer is the Almighty. Pray to Him to show you the right path all the time!'
The gist of the entire discipline he conveyed to his son repeatedly and thus left him off to live partly on his own.

All along for the mom, God had left only 2 tasks with her.

The first one was..
  • 'Bring up the child under your care with your limitless love and attention till the young one comes up to a certain growth level of protecting the self against anti-social elements and beyond lead a certain life on own!'
There, sure the boy's mom did a wonderful task all by herself with 100% success!

The second task given to her was..
  • 'Further to that, your child gets off from your physical presence and certain broad control and tries to express self still remaining immature and non dependable. 
  • Here, the cultural values and ethics play a great role and make sure that your ward when physically is with you is nurtured with these values so that the young one even away from you could never be influenced by the external agency in the wrong paths with those instilled values from the very beginning straight away streamlining the thoughts and actions there in the right direction!'
As the peers' pressure started drawing the boy turned young man towards certain activities which from society point of view are looked down and safety point of view better the young ones ever keep off..

Every one sure expected the mom to guide and control a 100% the boy turned young adult indirectly and silently from the distance weaning him away from all those dangerous indirect distractions putting him on the path of right growth and development

And she did it again!

‘This post is a part of
Write Over the Weekend,

an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

Keywords: mom, dad, child

Friday, January 19, 2018

THE 'SURE SECRET' OF MY LIFE!

I looked at the watch and realized that it was still more than an hr to go to get to my destination. I looked at the young man on the opposite berth who was the only passenger with me left out in the train to alight at the last point and smiled at him. The young man instantly acknowledged my gesture and politely greeted me.

"What are you?"

I asked the young man.. He was silent for a while. I repeated my asking.

"Sir! My story is a bit strange. In life, I wanted to become...... but God is not kind to me and I'm in the middle of.........."

Suddenly I saw myself having more interest towards him. I comforted him saying..

"See dear! Life is a mixture of good and bad. Don't feel dull. What our Spiritual Books say is...."

"But, Sir! I told you.. My issue is a bit strange and......"

"Be brave and take up the task in front with a never failing spirit in you. All our Great Personalities forever affirmed this alone. If you become firm, you sure can move mountains.. Not these pebbles and small boulders you are talking of.....!"

Thus went on my almost a discourse for the next half hr without giving a chance for the young man to speak.

"Now,listen.. Follow what all I said. You sure will be out of your problem and...... And to tell you frankly to this day, this discipline remains the secret of my life which I followed meticulously to remain happy!"

I looked at the young man with a 100% confidence that he was inspired by my talk..

"Great Sir! You talked on the very right attitude required from us to lead this life happily. But..."

"Sorry.. No 'but' here.. Just follow what I said and you'll be....."

Reaffirming thus, I looked out.. The destination was 10 minutes ahead..

"But, Sir.. I can't do the way you told me because...."

Suddenly, I lost my cool..

"What young man? I took so much interest in you and wanted to help you but still...... I think I made a mistake here and......"

"That's not fair on your part to say so, Sir! I'm just saying that..."

"Enough dear! I don't want to listen to anything further on this. It's your wish. I only made a mistake here. Leave the issue now!"

Saying thus and not even bothered to bid bye to the young man, I took my baggage and silently got down from the train with certain no less anger simmering in me.

Further to that, I waked to the parking lot, got into my car left there while going and drove fast for a while till I noticed the fuel coming to the reserve.. I entered the nearest gas station, positioned my car and as the Service Boy came in front of me, said without looking at him.

"Premium petrol tankful!"

The Service Boy was seen still standing there. My anger instantly shot up. I madly shouted,

"Hi! I already said tankful premium petrol.. What else do you want me to say? Can't you understand what I said?"

Saying thus, as I turned and looked at the boy, I instantly saw him with a cheerful smile and all obedience signaling me silently thru' his hand movements confirming that the tank had to be filled full with petrol and further got into his job..


The God photo in front of me above my steering wheel was seen conveying me an Instant Message..

'These Precious Gifts of talking, hearing, grasping, understanding etc are given to you by Me to enable you listen patiently to others who are not up to your level, understand them at their own level and further advise them with compassion on what is possible for them for their good..

Leaving that Sacred Task in front of you, why are you taking reigns into your hands with all pride and ruling the people around you through these very Gifted Capacities with you?"


The post is written in line with this week's IndiSpire Prompt Write a short story Situation: you spill out a secret of your life to an unknown fellow passenger thinking you will never see him/her again. Later realizes that you opened up with a wrong person. #shortstory

Keywords: secret, life

Thursday, January 18, 2018

NO DOUBT, ALL STRATEGIES DO GOOD HERE.. BUT THE ONE THAT DOES EXTRA GOOD IS..

A businessman interviewed a number of eligible applicants for few Manager posts advertised. A common question was asked to each one of them as the selection criteria for the posts.

“What's your best strategy to remain in business constantly working for its improvement?”

Various candidates answered in various ways repeating what they had learnt earlier..

  • ‘Caring for the customer is the most important criteria to remain in business. The customer is a very important person on our premises. He is the back bone of all our activities in business. They say the customer is a king in our business but actually the customer is more than that; he is the god! Here alone....'

  • ‘The manger is the important link between the supervisors/workmen and higher officials. I see that the communication here up the hierarchy is ever kept smooth with timely information on the activities of….’
  • ‘I pay full attention to discipline at my work. Discipline alone works the best here as it cuts short the time and energy wastage. Whatever said and done, I meticulously oversee that ultimately no laziness creeps into my work area with any one by taking appropriate disciplinary measures….’
  • ‘Timely actions many times save us from getting into serious downfalls. Procrastination is the thief of time and here alone a manager has a great role to play. I've a plan of....’
  • ‘Financial discipline is the core ingredient of all business ventures. As manager, I meticulously follow up and see that….’ 
Etc.. Etc.. One candidate answered thus..

'At my work, the customer, both the direct and the indirect customers, the boss and the sub-ordinates constantly interact with me for the smooth handling of the tasks on hand.

In that context, I very much believe that spending a little more of my personal time, energy and monies for the betterment of these personalities than stipulated in my Code of Conduct at my work goes in the long way helping out preventing the recurrent hold-ups.

At the back of this additional contribution alone, I'll follow the rest of all that I learned so far such as....'


The business man gave one hundred percent marks to that candidate and selected him as one of his Managers!

Keywords: business, strategy

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

A TRUE END TO MY EXTRA PROMISES AND PLEDGES!

“Sir! I have a doubt. Whatever promises/pledges I make

To myself or
To others with me


In respect of bringing a change in me,

I'm finding that sooner or later I am back to my original behavior and style of living straight away putting my promise/pledge neatly into cold storage.

Not able to face that failure, I start giving fake reasons and thus cover it up nicely but never ever am ready to stick to my promise/pledge made with so much zeal and enthusiasm.

Can you explain how I should discipline myself so that I never break my promises/pledges at any time in my life?”

“My dear! We are individuals of certain personality and all our

Behavioral patterns,
Habits and
Styles of living


Are because of this inside personality built over unknown times. It's a product of my

Originality through my birth,
Hereditary acquired from my parents and ancestors and
Culture and habits acquired by me in the environment in which I have grown! 


Can I modify such a huge built-up of mine just thru' a verbal promise/pledge? Sure never! And without knowing the depth of this, if I promise/pledge in this direction, I will surely fail!

If at any time, I'm emotionally charged or ignited to make a pledge, I better quote to myself as well to others around me that it's more than enough if I stick to the already existing promises/pledges with me in my life like

  • When I exist, there is a Promise/Pledge..
Take care of the body towards good physical and mental health and protect the same from the impending dangers continuously!
  • When I join an Educational Institution, there is a Promise/Pledge..
Improve the learning and get a good name for the Institute of Studies!
  • When I join the Employment, there is a Promise/Pledge..
Work hard to earn a decent salary as per the skills and take care of the Employer’s interest in the best possible way!
  • When I have a Family, there is a Promise/Pledge..
Take care of the welfare of the members of the family the best with available resources and equally feel free and be happy!
  • When I interact in the Society, there is a Promise/Pledge..
Take care of the civic amenities around in the right way and interact and be helpful but not interfere and quarrel with the members of Society!

Etc..Etc.. It's always the wisdom with me that I

See these Pledges of my life more often,
Remember the same as much as possible and
Uphold them thru'


'A DEFINITE GOOD WORK'

From my end instead of myself getting into unnecessary additional promises/pledges!

Keywords: promise, pledge

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

KEY ISSUES OF 'REMUNERATION' AND 'OVERTIME BOOKING' AT WORK!


  • Remuneration at work other wise called the compensation package on a job invariably is negotiable. 
  • Market conditions almost fix the broad range of all salary packages. 
  • Elements of the salary package include the basic pay, an element to compensate for the rise in prices, other perks and allowances and variable pay. 
  • Basic pay is the standard yardstick for many payments/calculations and is invariably to be paid by employer if profit is earned or not. 
  • Variable pay component depends purely on performance and profits earned. It's broadly supported by three variants of performance. 
    *Individual performance 
    *Group performance 
    *Divisional performance 
  • Further performance on job can be direct or indirect depending on the job done. 
  • Employee welfare payments include 

    *Contribution towards Provident Fund, 
    *Payment of Gratuity, 
    *Payment of Medical Allowance, 
    *Payment towards Leave Travel, 
    *Provision of subsidized food, transport etc.
  • Perks are part of employee motivational aids.
  • Over time at work invariably exists. 
  • It's because the customer may require the help all of sudden and by meeting his/her requirement the highest customer satisfaction is achieved which is one of the main aims of good business. 
  • It may also be because the employee is running out of time beyond planned, due to vagaries of circumstances and it's appropriate to complete the same in time by taking care thru’ stay over. 
  • In third instance, over time can be because of certain training planned. 
  • The Parliamentary Acts related employee welfare stipulate certain conditions for booking over time. This involves welfare of employee in respect of 
    *Rest after the usual 8 hrs work, 
    *Facilities in respect of food/transport and 
    *Extra remuneration for the hrs of overtime.

  • This is applicable only for those levels below supervisory cadre. Above this level, the employer generally compensates the employee thru’ time off. 
  • Extended overtime booking concept is working on weekly holidays/other paid holidays. The requirements and rules applicable are similar.
Keywords: work, remuneration, overtime

Monday, January 15, 2018

ALL SAID AND DONE, THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER!

A man who used to boast himself a personality of simplicity, ethics and spirituality in life once visited a distant place and extensively roamed around the areas there exploring the surroundings.

All along he noticed the people of that area of almost all ages..

  • Regularly doing strenuous body exercises not bothering for the time of the day, weather and other environmental factors to keep themselves fit and fine,
  • Being always conscious of high nutrition in their diet with many varieties of foods stocked in stores and on the table to satisfy that requirement and
  • Taking extreme care in presenting themselves the best way to the outside world!
On return, the man met one of his elderly well- wishers and casually narrated to him what he observed in the place of visit saying,

“Sir! This body is just with us to make use for our living. For that it's a wonder,
  • How much attention these people pay to remain fit and fine,
  • How many varieties of foods they consume to keep themselves healthy and
  • How much precious time they waste to make themselves look good and smart?
Do we need to do so much for a physical body which any how deteriorates in time? Why not they understand that a discipline of
  • Doing some simple exercises, 
  • Eating limited healthy food and 
  • Having a cheer on the face 
Do all the wonders required in life? 
I see no point in living my life in such a style!” 

The elderly, a deep thinker and a man of total understanding listened to all that, paused for a while and said,

“Dear! For people like us, many requirements in life are met easily with the casual work we do.. I mean to say, a work with lesser competition around! For people of the region you visited, it doesn't happen that way..

They have to face every minute the tough competition to secure even a small item in life. To face such a competition in their working, there is no go for them other than remaining trim..

That trimmed way ultimately is nothing but having a healthy body maintained through tough exercise and good nutrition and presentation through the best grooming.

And to make it a habit of the body and mind, one needs to train himself/herself in that direction from childhood itself else it can't be owned!”

Taken back by the revelation made by the well-wisher, the man said,

“OK, Sir! I understand what you say. My other doubt is.. 'How's that I'm not doing anything like that but still living my life well getting my day to day requirements? Don't you agree that these people have too many expectations in their life?”

The elderly looked at him, smiled and said,

“It's okay.. Expecting more may be a factor with them and that naturally would be predominant when one puts in so much struggle but when you say..

'My requirements are easily met!',

It indirectly means..

'My portion of work is being done continuously by someone else somewhere and I'm purely relaxing at his/her cost!'

Tell me.. What do you say to this and how would you react if the whole thing comes on you at a stroke?"

Keywords: TRUTH, BITTER

Saturday, January 13, 2018

THE EXPLOITATION THAT CONTINUES FOR A LIFE TIME!

3 young men have planned a great holiday trip deep into a distant jungle area for a week to relax and explore the surroundings. Naturally, the youth have that type of interest and energy with them. For that, they had to take leave from their work. Initially it was not so easy for them but at length somehow the three got their leave sanctioned.

"These Bosses don't understand that we need a holiday off from our work once in a way.. When I demanded my Boss, he simply said,

'Leave from work is not a right; it's just a privilege given to you!'

I argued on the point that LTA is one of the provisions of employment and as per those rules alone, I asked the leave. He had to agree finally as there was no go for him and he just sanctioned it.

A Holiday is must for us to rejuvenate and without that relaxation, we are sure never efficient at our work!"

"Your Boss is better.. Mine said,

'No question of leave for a holiday trip this time. It's given only once in 2 years. You took last year 15 days leave for that. Sorry.. I can't sanction that now once again!'

I argued on the requirement and at length I got it sanctioned. These Bosses simply exploit our skills and when it comes to helping us, they turn away their faces. How can we stay glued to our work all the 365 days?

Life is too boring without these routine holiday trips with us, isn't it? what do you say?"

"You should never yield here. These Bosses won't listen so easily. My Boss is never straightforward. Whenever I ask for leave, he says..

'OK, Dear! No problem. I'll take care of that. Can you just finish this small work first?'

If you fall in his trap, that's all. Those works will never be small, they really would be problematic works which................

I know this and so I equally play a trick. I simply en-cash on certain weak points of my man. I used the same and that's it.. There was no go for him and I got my leave sanctioned without a word further..

After all, without a routine holiday trip, what's the meaning to our life?"

Thus went on their talk of making fun of their Bosses for a while and soon all were in their own jovial mood to get out of the killing monotony within.

The next day, they were out on their long journey to the most remote area talked of. Deep into jungles where everywhere the nature was truly interesting..

Finally, they reached the camp area, got some help from the locals who were few in number and camped at the designated site.

The next day morning, they ventured into the thick forest area through a number of bushy plants and giant trees as they traveled in their vehicle. In the mid of that jungle, they met a man who was doing some work with his 2 children playing around.

The younger one, the boy was trying to fly a small kite with him but he was unsuccessful all along. His elder sister was seen helping him out learn how to fly a kite.

Seeing their struggle, one of the young men helped the boy fly the kite and in no time the boy was very happy seeing his kite flying quite well. The elder sister was curiously looking at the 3 young men.

The young men spoke to the man for sometime enquiring about his living there saying that he was lucky to live amidst such natural life. When asked, they explained to him that they were on a holiday and were exploring the area and the surroundings..

The man listened to all, paused for a while and at length spoke..

"I understand what all you spoke and my Boss too won't listen to anything so easily. He allows me leave my work only when myself and my people are not well, that too for a minimum time. Further, for any important local or family activity, he allows those hrs to leave my work and join back. Nothing more, he gives us and beyond that

We don't ask,
We can't ask,
We don't know what to ask and
We don't know too where to go after asking!


Ok.. Here, from what all you said, I understand and I know how the Boss would be tough in our work never leaving us for a minute but just one word, I couldn't make out. You said, 'The holiday'..

What exactly is the meaning when you say that you are on a holiday?"

Just then having suddenly lost it's balance in the mid air straight in front of the sister,

The Kite fell on the ground. She said, ‘Wish it had strong wings!’,

Took her brother closer and instantly comforted him!

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend,
an initiative forIndian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

Keyword: exploitation