ULTIMATELY WHEN IT BECOMES INEVITABLE..

The Saying may go that marriages are made in heaven but most of the time the actual married life is be physically lived on earth with lots of turmoil a few times making it feel like hell and

The idea of divorce surfaces!

Before marriage, friendship and wooing may look like a honeymoon experience but after marriage they definitely have to face the blazing sun and withstand and when the heat goes up beyond a limit

The idea of divorce surfaces!

Familiarity is forced to breed contempt in every married life as the parties are too familiar with each and everything known 100% and it needs great patience and perseverance from both the parties to keep up this contempt at simmering levels ever thru' doing good and in spite of such good care too, when certain rift takes birth and starts growing endlessly

The idea of divorce surfaces!

When marriage thus becomes a greater pain and separation thru' legal divorce looks inevitable, it should ever be remembered that that has its own problems hitherto never imagined where in a lot of attention alone can safeguard ultimately the interests of both the partners..

And with birth of children in such a married life eternally smeared with unending rift tendencies, it's ever wisdom that certain additional factors are taken care of before reaching the separation agreements..

Here both the partners and the well-wishers on either side should be aware of the needs of growing children both physical and psychological and take such timely decisions wherein that growth and development are never hampered like..

• Children respond to love alone and nothing less and that love is nothing but paying the right attention towards them.. 

That attention from two ever out weighs that received from one unless doubled!

• No rational behavior is expected from children up to a certain age and the parents alone can support them there thru' extended patience at the back of their unending love..

Anything less here is forever a deficiency only!

• The parents alone together give a certain personality to their children.. 

Without max of that we often grow up violent and insecure individuals ultimately!

• Child care is a 24 hr task till they grow to a certain age and.. 

Two on sharing basis can sure support this better!

• Children continuously believe and observe as they grow.. They never forget even a small response from whom they interact and it's very much stored and works to perfection..

True love in abundance definitely becomes an asset in such a scenario!

• Children never expect pity from others; instead no attention for a while is better.. Further, they expect continuous attention from one individual; never want attention daily from different individuals..

Any rift in the relationship of the parents sure creates a problem in fulfilling this requirement!

• Children expect no help in all issues where no danger is sensed; instead they start exploring the issues in front.. 

A sincere vigilance from both the parents leaving them to their full freedom becomes a big asset in such scenario!

• Child care beyond health and safety involves instilling certain confidence in the minds of the Little Ones.. Children learn max in the early years of childhood and beyond it becomes mostly repeating and copying only.. 

Such a confidence is ever doubled when the parents originally carry mutual respect for each other and have max confidence in each other!

• Finally to say.. As we sow, we reap! If I am honest to core and do all my activities accordingly, my child too sure copies that.. 

In a troubled situation with rift tendencies, how much these honest behaviors from the aggressive party side survive is ever doubt!

The Post is written in line with the week's IndiSpire prompt Divorce affects the social, mental and physical health of a Child. Agree or disagree? #divorce

Keywords: marriage, separation, children