Tuesday, May 12, 2015


  • Safe Feeling: I was the weakest but never felt so.... My Mother by the side was in total action there taking max care....
  • Identifying: My knowing and emotionally identifying was again totally the work of her by my side the beginning of which is never known to me even today...
  • Interacting: I was fully into it from the day one as my Mom with me started responding instantly there again, the beginning of which is simply unknown to me till date....
  • Speaking: I speak fluently this day in that one language of my Mother and truly speaking I don't know how I picked it up....
  • Growing Up: Call it singly, it's just a 9 lettered word.... But go by the substance part of it, it's a vast learning imparted to me by my Mother from scratch to almost 22-25 yrs who all those years left not a single stone unturned in the process!

That way seen, she was my very First Expert who had done totally a dedicated task of playing simultaneously the Roles of a Teacher, Guide and Supporter all along with her Original Role of an ever Loving and Caring Mother by the side!

A few Reminiscences of this Expertise in action....

It was the year 1956.... I clearly remember that most dreaded day in my life to begin my schooling.... My Mother made me ready and asked my Maternal Uncle to take me to the school as she could not venture out at that point of time and seeing tears rolling down my eyes I distinctly heard her telling her brother, 

"Stay near to the class room when he is inside and bring him back in 2 hrs time requesting the Teacher.... The first day, I don't want my boy feel helpless more than that!" 

And she exactly meant that, when she said that!

Thus started my schooling and my studies went on further when I was not knowing almost the meaning of actually getting ready for school but invariably daily I was ready, my bag was ready, my homework done was ready and my food was ready and nothing less was done there at any point of time!

I was in 5th class; the year 1959.... It was truly a sad day of my life.... One of my Class-mates and a close friend passed away suddenly.... It was a shock to every one and I was not knowing what that shock meant, but my mother knew 100% the fear and tension that was in my mind  and strangely that night as certain nightmares struck me, she quickly comforted me and right next day she told him at my sleep time, 

“Dear! Whenever you are afraid of bad dreams coming to you, repeat the following Sloka of Strength….

'Ramaskandham hanumantham vainateyam vrkodaram
shayane yah smarennithyam duh swapnam thasya nasyathi'

When you thus remember Lord Hanuman, Garuda and Bheema before going to sleep who are forever the Mighty, Strong and Powerful by our side, bad dreams can never occur to you and you will sleep well!”

No need to say here that soon I was freed from all fears of waking up in the middle of my sleep shivering with bad dreams!

I was in 8 class; the year 1962.... On an evening, a sever thunderstorm struck our area with too much lightening and sounds.... And as I witnessed that thunderstorm, a strange fear over took me slowly which continued quite for some time.... No doubt, my Mother was knowing all that and she almost used to be with me whenever the thunderstorms struck in our area till a day she had to go away from me for a week to our Native Place....

I exactly remember that day a day before her departure as soon as I returned from school, she gave me the usual evening mini meal to my satisfaction, made me relax for few minutes and said, 

“Dear! When I am away for a week, daily you will be alone for about 2 hrs in the house in the evenings till your brothers return.... And I know that you are afraid of heavy Thunders and Lightening…. In case a heavy rain comes in that time, you are worried, is it not? Also, at night when your brothers are sleeping, if the the same Lightening and Thunders come up, you are worried, is it not?”

Yes! she exactly touched my problem…. I was at great ease with the solace I got from her words at the back of the menacing problem troubling me all along….

“I’ll give you the best solution…. What our Epic Story says is that the Devas’ King Indra, the Lord of Rain God as he travels in the Sky in his Chariot, the constant rubbing with the clouds produces the Lightening and Thunders…. So if you please Devas' King Indra, he definitely takes care of you…. And you know Prince Arjuna is the son of Indra…. So praise Prince Arjuna, Indra is pleased with you and instructs the Rain God to go soft without making such a blinding Lightening and loud Thunders…. I tell you a Sloka, by-heart this one and repeat the same in your mind when the Thunders and Lightening strike….

“Arjunah Palghunah Paarthah Kireethih Swethavahanah
Bheebhastuh Vijayah Krishnah Savyasaachih Dhananjayah!” 

“Now you are safe…. The Lightening and Thunders can never do anything to you!”

I still don't recollect how I felt so confident that nothing would happen to me if I repeat the sloka.... And strangely that belief later had become a part and parcel of mine even to this date, I unknowingly repeat this in a sever weather conditions an example being when I was in Rhode Island on a visit in 2011, myself and my wife were alone at home on a day evening when suddenly an announcement came up saying that a Tornado of moderate Intensity is going to strike that area which was in fact rare in the Coastal Belt.... We both sat glued to the TV announcements about the movement of Tornado and I remember myself suddenly repeating the same sloka with a Prayerful attitude to God just to take care of us at that critical point and of course further to that the Tornado by passed off the living areas and got weakened subsequently!

Completed my 12th schooling; the year 1966.... I secured an Engineering Seat in the adjacent town 100 km away but on the last day of moving out from there to the new house arranged by my Father at the new place, the Father could not come with us and myself and my Mother alone had to travel in bus, reach the place and enter the new house.... She with no knowledge of the new place and being a woman of her own insecurity problems of those days to move around freely was my savior I talking a lead at the age of 16 yrs having only energy and nothing else.... We traveled together, reached the place by evening and from the point of getting down the bus, arranging vehicle, transporting our huge luggage, locating the new house, entering the same and staying there to night with no instant communication facilities on hand.... All tasks were successfully completed under the care of my Expert i.e. my dear Mother by my side all along she saying,

"Dear! We will do all this work ourselves independently and rise to the Occasion!" 

I just recollected on that single day that she truly was my Pillar of Strength by my side in my life!

Post completion of my Graduation.... I had to travel to distant place for my PG, but the Mother's confident good advice with a list of dos and donts in a place 2000 km away and with home made Pickles and Recipes by my side made me feel my First time Hostel life almost like another Home!

And having thus left me first time on my own, my life subsequently continued later thru my job and settlement in life with all the associated responsibilities till the year 1985 when my dearest Mother breathed her last leaving me on my own.... 

No doubt, she was the one who truly laid the strong Foundation for the Personality in me even though my Father could build the Fortress over that for me which subsequently stood the test of time when exposed to few not so less downs of life, the Foundation for ever did and is doing its silent of work of imparting the true strength required to this Fortress of mine.... That way seen, I can with a confidence of one hundred percent say that my Mother was truly my First Expert with me diligently using her Expertise in the best possible way making me a man out of almost nothing in the beginning!

The Post is written in accordance with the guidelines of Indivine Topic My First Expert   http://godrejexpert.com/single_used_pack.php


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  2. Nicely written post sir.Mom's plays the most important role in everbodys life.

    1. Thanks Sathya.... It is the most important Role in one's life his / her mother plays forever never missing a single work of welfare towards her child.... I just summarized a few important situations which matter a lot for a child of that age when exposed to the Realities of Life and how the mother there rises to the occasions!

  3. Awesome post sir! Don't how I missed it earlier.
    Moms are the best :) your writing brings it out so clearly!

    1. Thank you very much Archana! These Contest Posts appear in the Queue according to the date of submission.... That's why many times they go unnoticed.... A few of my life experiences of interaction with my mother are presented here as they are!