Monday, October 31, 2016


THOUGHT TO BE A PRETENSION BUT HAPPENED TO BE A REALITY!

A man had a very serious tiff with his friend was razing in himself for a while.. 

“Hell with this man! I don't want to interact with him any more.. Let me stop all this nonsense permanently and........ But how to get off from him? OK! This moment, I’ ll just pretend that am a little sick and needed some rest and thus be off for a while!” 

he thought.. Accordingly he kept off from him for a while quoting sickness over which the friend enquired whether he needed any help. The man quickly said, 'NO' and got off from him immediately but subsequently thought.. 

“Why this pretension? Why not just say Hello to him and be off rather than talk unnecessarily from my side?” 

And, from the next day onward he appeared improving to others and thus slowly was into the discipline which he wanted to implement.. That had its own limit in time as soon another thought came up.. 

“Why not just behave normal and be interacting as usual but not believe in anything he says? No more tensions in such a case!”

he thought and went on thus for few days.. But, that too was no exception and soon was perceived as limited only.. And the next thought was.. 

“Why should I pretend like this? Let me be natural as usual in the Group, just do the Right and but never expect anything from this friend!”

Soon he was as normal like earlier but appeared more cheerful all along.. And the final thought was Unique.. 

"Why should I limit from my side? Why not be truly a friend to him here, do a little more only for him, expect nothing in return forever keeping my secrets and my problems to myself only as ultimately I alone had to attend to all that and thus be eternally happy with 'Nil' conflict in my mind!”

That was the 
Ultimate Noble Thought 
in him and thru’ that he was truly cured of 
the disease of hatred that had its birth in the beginning 
of which 
He very much thought that he was only pretending!

Keywords:
hatred, pretension, reality

11 comments:

  1. Nice article indeed :) and it's reality everywhere that do all right but never expect from anyone :) well your all blogs are very intresting.

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    1. Thank you Neeraj, for a good Comment and Appreciation!

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  2. This is a very beautiful article. Loved reading it. Totally agree with you. Expectations give rise to conflicts.

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    1. Thanks Purba.. When we just do our duty and remain thus, the conflict within us is sure going to be NIL.. Expectations of any nature forever pulls the man into the eternal conflict of fighting to get it with a doubt whether one gets it or not.. A nice comment here!

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  3. I appreciate the thoughts expressed herein Sir. Unarguably you have asserted something worth being endorsed and embraced for assimilation with own personality for own betterment. All the same, let me assert that judicious expectations for deserved rewards can't be done away with in mundane life especially in employment. And hence what you have asserted is hard to apply in the context of those who are hell-bent upon harming you or depriving you of your due (quite knowingly and deliberately). The realistic thing is that we are human-beings, not angels. Hatred is undoubtedly undesirable but sometimes normal human-beings can't help maintaining the same towards specific ones. We can (and we should) aspire to be angelic but any attempt towards that bears a cost.

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    1. Yes.. Jitendra.. I agree very much that I as an ordinary mortal should not attempt doing the above by pardoning in each and every situation and thus make my life small without much expansion and expression.. Our Philosophers forever stressed this point and never advised us to keep off from any active mundane interests..

      Keeping this in mind, I wrote the Post wherein the last understanding stresses forever to be careful as we move in our life discharging our duties where in self protection becomes one of my duties at my own level.. And here alone each person's perception of life aspects differ and sometimes one may understand that after taking utmost care from himself/herself why further ponder over the issues when that sure never helps in one’s expression in any.. If one feels minimizing the conflict within and thus be at peace for more time, the sure path is instantly seen as forgive and forget never reducing even an inch the vigilance care in the situation from their side..

      Request to reply on this interesting discussion for understanding the subject a bit deeper along with our usual ups and downs of life..

      And thanks for bringing out such an interesting and valuable comment here for much deeper understanding of the subject!

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  4. Hearty thanks Sir. In a review, I have asserted that 'Man is a product of his experiences'. Positive experiences build a positively thinking person and negative experiences, quite naturally, build a negatively thinking person. Sometimes the society plays the villain and in turn, gets repaid in the same coin by the aggrieved. A childlike trusting innocent is thus turned into an apprehensive and shrewed one by the frequent breakage of his trust only by the so-called practical ones. How can and for how long a person with a heart of gold afford to remain so when time and again, he is betrayed by those who pretend to be his friend but actually are his foes. The most dangerous enemy is one who meets in the disguise of a friend (just like a wolf wearing the skin of a sheep) because his real self and real intent remain hidden under his friendly persona and therefore, the required wariness for own safety does not exist. The harsh truth is that even the people with angelic nature and possessing hearts of gold are bound to live in the society with all the worldly obligations lying on their shoulders. Despite all the virtues embedded in their personality, they can't afford to become a sage and live in seclusion. I am a very forgiving person by nature but find it difficult to forgive all and sundry. Whenever I am betrayed by someone I trusted, it becomes very difficult for me to forgive myself more than that betraying one.

    All things said and done, the viewpoint put forth as well as the process of self-transformation elucidated in this blog is agreeable to me. I will relentlessly aim for it. King Janak should be my role model who was a hermit in his heart and saint in his attitude despite being a king and a Grihastha in his real life.


    All the sa

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    1. Thanks Jitendra.. Your highly informative comment here is truly an add-on to the content of the Post.. Rightly said!

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  5. Very valid point you have discussed here. Expectation leads to disappointment. Disappointment gives birth to resentment. Resentment awards us loss of peace of mind!! Ultimately despite being the sufferer ourselves, we add more pain by allowing all of them to take control! As quoted by Mr. Jitendra in the above comment, it gets difficult to forgive the person and forget his action that caused much pain. It is difficult, yes, but not, impossible. This is why elders suggest to follow - attachment with detachment - to avoid such unpleasant situations anywhere and with anyone!! We mus try... for the sake of being at peace with ourselves!!

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    1. Yes.. That's very much the right point here, Manasaa.. It's difficult for us to live thru' our life with such a dispassion, sometimes simply impossible too but an attempt from my side can always be initiated.. And the very interest in attempting here makes us truly lighter in our dealings of day to day life.. Thanks for the good supportive comment here!

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    2. True Sir. A spark is all that is required to set a flame. Likewise, a small step/initiative from our side will make a great impact!

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