THE RIGHT ADVISING.. WHAT'S IT LIKE?

The Head of the family was constantly speaking on the importance of being 'Good’ and 'disciplined' in life and repeatedly used to admonish the grown-up younger ones for any lapse there in. The younger members were getting bored with the high doses of preaching but the man of principles continued doing that..

One day an elderly well-wisher, a man of deep wisdom and thinking had visited the family. He noticed the unhappiness of the members over the too many sermons given out. The well-wisher waited for the right opportunity and accordingly the next day evening said to the Head,

“Dear! I see some unhappiness with the members in this house and they seem a little against your forced discipline on them. Why don’t you relax for a while and allow them do what they want?”

The Head retorted,

”Sir! How can I do that? If I allow them freely, there would only be anarchy in the family and ultimately none will be happy. When I tell good, hope I need no permission to do that!”

The well-wisher said,

“I don’t say that what you tell is wrong. But the right way here is to tell these grown ups indirectly by making them work so that they themselves would see that good if not fully, surely partly..

Please remember..

• The learning field in the young one's mind is like a rough ocean with waves hitting from all directions with max intensity. Such a roughness in no time engulfs any type of good advising and I can surely say that the final effect would be a zero whatever you try to thrust in that direction..

• These waves are huge and if we get into them that is sure dangerous but most of the times they never cross the border beyond except remain in their usual limits but the turmoil continues. That turmoil is nothing but the jest and energy with the youth and here what you advice them is to remain like a calm sea and how is that possible with such a back ground? 

• Nature is the best Care Taker of all of us and Nature alone had allowed this in youth as that has a purpose. The Epic story says..

The Sacred Nectar was finally gifted by Gods when the Oceans were churned thoroughly and the poison that came up in the process was handled safely!

• In a similar way, if the individual is allowed to churn with all sincerity his/her ocean like mind, the nectar like product will sure generate from the ocean. No doubt in the process some hurdles do come up like the poison that came up during the churning of the ocean and they need to be handled carefully with all firmness. This will alone do the ultimate good to the youth and help them grow into full individuals..

• In such a scenario, it's ever the duty of the elders to provide necessary facilities to the members with them to go ahead with this churning with all zeal..

And that 'TIMELY HELP' ultimately is nothing but guiding them in doing their works the best at the back of their own decisions and freedom!"

The Post written few years back remains partly in line this week's IndiSpire Prompt

Motivational writing is the easiest. Like advice which costs nothing. Like pulpit preaching. Like a godman's antics. No politics either. Very convenient. #MotivationBlog

And so is brought out here.

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