The Great Man carried a sacred black thread (amulet) round his wrist all the time.. Some one commented,
"You advocate all the time doing the right things in life.. Here, you alone are believing in this thread and carrying it round your hand!"
The Great Personality smiled and replied..
"This thread is tied on to my hand by my mother with a belief in her that it safeguards me from all evils.. Here, I'm no one to question her belief and as a dutiful son I honor her decision of having this round my hand.. In case, the thread wears out and falls off on its own, I myself will not tie another one in it's place as my mother never insisted me to do that!"
That's how the Great Man truly honored and respected His Mother's feeling and followed it 100% as a dutiful son..
Parents forever deserve this level of respect from their wards as the sacrifices done by them in their life time towards their wards especially when the children were young can never be gauged on any standard of scale available on this earth!
It's possible that at times, the parents may carry an authority beyond required on their grown-up children which any grown-up man will resist but that action should forever be soft-pedaled alone and should never be straight away brought out as an insult to the personality of the parent..
This soft-pedaling is often a trick to be played by me towards my parent whenever he/she advises beyond and questions me unnecessarily in my life..
A short story in this context..
A Saint was once beaten by a Rowdy Sheeter on the road and he became unconscious.. The disciples quickly brought Him back to the Ashram and one of them started serving Him.. When the Saint came to consciousness, the disciple asked,
"Master? Can you recognize who is serving you?"
The Saint smiled and said,
"The hand that hit me is serving me!"
Conveying the Message that He could not distinguish between the wrong and the right doers as His Love spreads on all uniformly..
This attitude may be the highest, may never be possible for me but a practice of it at least limited to my family if comes up can do real wonders..
So let me forget here the parent as the wrong doer, think him/her always as my well-wisher alone and then proceed to highlight my issues firmly without moving an inch back..
Here, again the parental reaction may vary but that is immaterial for me as..
'My parent is dearer to me and I should never oppose him/her at any time but oppose only the adharma part therein and here I never allow that adharma over take us at any time!'
If I firm up thus, my way is sure the way of safe path for me in my life and never less of it at any time with a single thought all the time in me that.. It's still Okay!!
(This Post is written in line with the Indispire Prompt
I like your style of embedding a powerful story inbetween the thoughts to deliver a powerful message. Can't help but appreciate your willingness to share your rich experience in your post.
ReplyDeleteHandling generation gap will not be such a problem if one reads this post of yours.
Thanks Saket.. Love your comment!
DeleteI like your style of embedding a powerful story inbetween the thoughts to deliver a powerful message. Can't help but appreciate your willingness to share your rich experience in your post.
ReplyDeleteHandling generation gap will not be such a problem if one reads this post of yours.
You've conveyed a powerful message through the post... :-) Wonderfully penned....
ReplyDeleteThanks Maniparna.. Happy to have the comment here!
DeleteUnconditional love is highest and very difficult to practice, I understand. Giving respect to your parents because they have sacrificed for you is not respect at all but business of caring. You're right, Sir, that one should not think about their parents as right or wrong doers and respect them only because they are their parents. It is enough. No need to maintain accountancy of their sacrifices.
ReplyDeleteRegarding 'Adharma' part, what is the definition of ADHARMA? Who is the authority on its definition? Isn't it that not obeying your parent is Adharma?
A little explanation here Ravish.. When Lord Krishna advised Prince Arjuna to wage the righteous war else his actions will be Adharma, Dharma is forever is obeying the right and that right when more selflessly known alone, opposing parents for suggesting contrary to that is still seen as Dharma only.. Thanks for the good Observation!
DeleteA wonderful message sir. Though it may not be possible for love and forgive all uniformly but we can at least be practice this with family members.
ReplyDeleteRightly said, Somali.. A nice Comment here.. Thank you very much!
DeleteA wonderful message sir. Though it may not be possible for love and forgive all uniformly but we can at least be practice this with family members.
ReplyDeleteAnother of your beautiful posts which is relevent as parenting is so complex these days, that at times even parents are flummoxed on what is the best answer to a situation leave alone the children ! Accepting the parent's word as the highest is the simplest way to it ! Even if they are wrong let's learn together ..after all life is s journey . Wonderful post !
ReplyDeleteThanks Kokila.. You brought out the right point.. As usual the comment is a feather in the cap for the Post!
DeleteI remember watching Ram try to convince Bharath that if his mother is sending him to his uncle's house, there must be a strong reason, for she herself is going through the pain of separation too. It may not be the best example, but it definitely is one. Oftentimes we complain of what the parents did or did not do. Your post is a revelation in regard to adopting a correct attitude towards everyone.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sunaina.. A good observation on the Post!
DeleteA post with a message!
ReplyDeleteThanks Madam.. A good Comment!
DeleteBeautifully penned, with a wonderful message Sir.
ReplyDeleteThanks Leena.. Love the Comment!
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