The Best....

For a child….

Mother’s living place is the best surrounding.

Mother’s home is the best environment.

Mother’s closeness is the best vicinity.

Mother’s talk is the best engagement.

Mother’s touch is the best feeling.

Let there be no Repentance....

Good people with me are my real assets; no substitute is available for such people in my life…. I generally do not recognize the greatness of these good people till I face one problem with the so called not-so-good person!

I should remember that all good people too have their own personal beliefs independent of their good behaviour. These beliefs vary widely and may not match with those of my own!

When I continuously live or interact with such people, over a period of time, the original goodness is slowly forgotten and the above personal differences are seen more and more…. The famous saying ‘Familiarity breeds contempt’ applies very much!   These differences only propel me to get off quickly from these people or if forced to live together will result in continuous commenting and fighting!

When I am thus forcibly off from such people in mental plane, another set of people do take their place in my psychological world....Such people are never basically the so good people as they have captured an opportunity!  In this way,  I become a pawn in their game and if I look back, it is evident that ultimately I have come away from the best people around me!

Should I not question this voluntary action of mine?

Let me always remember that in life problems do exist, they have got to be resolved, that is why I am here and my time too with me!  Let me never get away from good people in this process!

Democratic Ruling....contd....

Two evils in the world continue for ever but never end! One is exploitation of the weak and the second, existence of parallel economy…. Whatever might have been be the measures taken by all Democratic Rulers of the world to end these two, they always co existed with us and continue to do so. Exploitation of the weak and the existence of parallel economy provide basically ease of living and hence they have an indirect acceptance by all who can access the same! So, there is nothing like ending them in the world! All Rulers across the world had tried all the time and are trying their best constantly to free societies from these evils as much as possible and that way no doubt provided better life for many so far!

In this scenario, a good Democratic Ruler and every individual around should not talk of any eradication program but only keep them under check continuously….It is similar to human bodies fighting with external attacks in whatever form continuously thus minimising the dangers of becoming victims of disease and accidents!

So, all promises in this direction by prospective Rulers in a democratic set up should be limited to constantly keeping these evils under check as done in the best way by the earlier Rulers with a tail piece if required, “We will try to do better than them!”…. That is all the limit…. There is no need to promise the moon at any time!

The one helpful Discipline....

The famous joke as heard….

A priest was being transported in a taxi. The taxi was booked in time but it arrived late by thirty minutes. The driver felt bad for the same, raised the speed above normal and dropped him the best possible way. While leaving, he told the priest, “Sir, Hope I have not caused interruption to your work by being late.” The priest replied, “No! My dear, absolutely not! As you were doing your job, I too was doing mine without an interruption.”

May be it is a sarcastic remark filled with fun, but as we look at our lives, we find that ‘Fear of Unknown’ is always the greatest fear in life. Further, It will never leave an individual whatever said and done. At times, it haunts a person and he/she will be totally helpless under its influence!

Only one discipline in life truly gives solace in this aspect….

That is….

Discharging one’s responsibility for the day to the core feeling all the while at heart that God is behind all the happenings and closing the day with a sincere prayer to Him that a similar opportunity be given the next day!

God gives us the Right Opportunity....

A middle aged man was a close relative of a young man who was honest and straight forward. The old man was all the time getting his works done through this young man. Life was going on thus….

Once, the old man encountered a serious problem in his life which started pestering him day and night. He was totally peace less in that condition. In that scenario, the young man straight away acted and sorted out the issue for the elderly man….

The man was relived a lot. Once again, the life was going on smoothly and it was much more interesting than earlier. That way a few years had passed. All these years, there were no serious problems in the life of the old man..

Suddenly, one more critical problem surfaced in his life and he was again totally helpless, much more this time! 

He expected the young man to sort out the issue as he had done earlier. Contrary to his expectation, the young man did nothing….The old man was furious. On an appropriate occasion, he shouted at him and gave out a piece of his mind!

The young man simply smiled at him and told, 

“Sir! I am sorry! Earlier, when your problem was resolved, you thought that I solved your problem and thus helped you. But it was my responsibility to the core at that point of time and I simple did my job…. Subsequent to this, you might have expected that I would be by your side to solve all future issues in life. You thus totally started relaxing in your life and because of that, your present problem appears to be more difficult! But to tell you frankly, here my responsibility is zero and I can and I should do nothing in this regard! Unfortunately, the person who can bring solace to you may not listen to you in this regard. I am really sorry for the trouble you invited for yourself!”

While leaving, the young man said, “Sir! God always gives us a chance to recover from an impending problem but simultaneously expects us to be less self oriented in future! But most of the times, I will forget this and start thinking that ‘I resolved the issue and I am great!’ When I thus deviate, the next problem sure to come up makes me more helpless. It is better I always make use of the chance given by the Almighty, try to mould myself as I solve the problem and still in that process if I fail, I should sincerely await for the next opportunity! Thus a problem is an opportunity to improve but not to escape from true responsibility!”

The old man was totally taken aback at the wisdom of the youngster!

Easy Money....

'Easy Money' is too dangerous! No one should fall a pray to it….It exists every where; it is part and parcel of our living!

I am some times under its influence either by force, from need, out of greed or due to ignorance! The earliest I come out of its clutches and keep a distance, the better!  It does irreparable damage and brings in untold misery!

Nature permits all actions in the world only under three conditions….

No 1 is ‘I take reasonably from the world only what I want’, 
No 2 is ‘I give back reasonably to the world the equivalent in return as Material/Service’ and
No 3 is 'I give back to the world  some extra up to a maximum of 25% of my earnings as Charity.' 

Any unbalance beyond a limit of this ‘Give’ and ‘Take’ is never respected by Nature! Further, the ‘Give’ and ‘Take’ should continuously and reasonably be performed in the fields where the law of land prevails to a large extent….

Generally, if this is followed safety is much ensured; no other activity which bypasses this is safe….And 'Easy Money' exactly overlooks all the three aspects and traps an individual for ever!

Standard known ways of earning  and spending are always the best methods available in the world. These do have legal and social approval. Further, even if anything goes wrong here which is rare, I am never,never,never.... questioned beyond!

Let us play safe and say 'Bye-Bye' to Easy money!

The Right Job....

A young man in a new job was  little  sad….To a sincere enquiry from a Well-wisher, he could no longer hold himself and said thus….

“Sir, I was doing a good job earlier and had taken up this new one as the present company is doing well and they offered me certain raise in my salary. Initially, I was very happy. All people around also told me that I had taken the right decision in this case.

But of late, I am getting a doubt whether I had taken the right decision….the reason being, the new job and the new boss are taking out my maximum time. The free time available earlier is a mirage now. With the result, I am unable to do any personal work or relax a little in a day. More over, in the new company, the philosophy is that all the personal works of an employee will be done by some Agencies who camp near the work area. That way, I do get many personal jobs done which hither to, I was doing myself. I am now forced to spend more money on these Services and thus left with lesser money than in the earlier job. Thus, by taking home less money with no time to relax, I am feeling sometimes for the mistake I had done in changing the job. Further, here the facilities are less and promotions are in the queue. That is why I am sad.  Also, I cannot go back to my earlier job again as it looks ridiculous and no one supports it.”

The Well-wisher listened to him patiently, looked at him and said, “Yes, Dear! I also do not recommend you to go back to your earlier job. It is actually a disaster in your career if you do so! Now let us look into this case a little in detail. You do not have the right concept of what a better job is! Is it getting more salary? Is it getting more ruling powers? Is it good environment around? Or is it something where you get some breathing time? If we look this way, the list may be endless, but all these are always of lesser importance compared to the certainty and career growth in job, both of which are once again interdependent. A job is basically doing a work making use of your skill in the best possible way and producing a superior product. Then the same will be kept in the market, and people who need it will fix a price for the same. That is exactly your worth, your Employer likes to pay you only that much and you should necessarily accept this. Your worth always depends on the quality, timely delivery, beating the competition and ultimately pleasing the customer. In no way it is to be seen anything less than this. In this process what money comes and goes is basically immaterial even though it appeals too much to me that I am getting less at the end of the day! Thus you grow continuously and all prospective Employers around you are aware of this. This recognition only caters for the continuity of your job and growth in job through out your active phase of life. You should mainly assess a job you like to take up only by considering these points. It is good that you have changed your job in the right time and every one around is aware of your ambition and push through nature in this context.”

While departing, the Well-wisher quipped with a smile….

It is good that three things are happening in your present work life….

1. You have no breathing time so that the idle mind is far away which otherwise will be a devil….
2. You do not have time for family so that the members of your family are with their sleeves up for facing life and thus soon are going to become highly capable….
3. Many around you are doing all your works sharing your earnings  and it means that you are able to provide employment to so many people around you and it is a proud situation that way!”

The young man was totally relaxed at this point of time with the clarification provided by the Well-wisher!