Government, Politics and Living....A democratic Way....contd....

Universal wrong doing is immune to complaints and punishments. We can never stop the wrong doing in the world but we can definitely take care of two issues in this context….

No 1 is....Have a system of continuous questioning through whatever way may be which keeps some people some time on track always.

No 2 is....Having noted down where the erring is predominantly possible, let not too much power be given to any one or any one group in the system to decide on the crucial issues.

No doubt, the progress to some extent may suffer because of these being active, but we will definitely have better safety in our living!

“In a democratic group where economic differences between individuals are too large, if severe harsh measures in terms of fines and confinement are allowed to get in, the same will be used by the powerful including the implementers of law to threaten the weak with consequences of theses severe punishments to achieve their selfish ends. In such Groups, the quantum of punishments can never be too high. The true upholders of democratic philosophies always know this!”

Meaningful life....Golden Way to Happiness....

Three Entities are always limited in life….Time, Money and Energy….

They are very precious for living a decent life, they create problem if allowed to be misused and an individual always elevates himself/herself through giving away these three entities  in an approved way!

Very important to understand in life….Let us look into detail….

Number one point is....They are precious because survival is out of use of these only. The world will not respect one if any shortage is there in these three….So one should maximize them and save them for a rainy day….No other go….The tools of discipline in this direction are….working, saving and spending carefully in a rationed way….

The second point is misuse of these….The three entities have to be well conserved/ protected indirectly. If available freely, they create devastation! Individuals turn out lazy, bad habits easily crop in, illegal activities will flourish and confusion prevails. The total Order in Nature will be lost…Thus, people have to be really disciplined in life in use of these; else no go….Further, educating others on the use of these three entities will not work easily….The only way is making these not available freely! Then one's own inward forces show the way….The ideal path to remember forever!

The third is caring for the Higher Order….Viz; Believing in the precept....‘Here, nothing is mine; I am not permanent!’  i.e.,Giving these limited entities in a way that benefits the entire world or to an individual as per his/her eligibility in true sense as per one’s own Dharma! 

Being alert thus is Golden Way to Happiness….

Meaningful life....True Handing Over.....

One evening, two elderly friends had an occasion of meeting in a park.   After a few enquires to each, one noticed that his friend was not very happy, enquired the same at an appropriate moment and further asked whether he could know why. The friend muttered a few words but after a few minutes of further close talk, could not control anymore and lamented thus, “These days I am worried about my family works at home. I am noticing that I am becoming incapable and not able to take care of so many issues which once upon a time were easy to handle. Physical working has become a constraint and thus many works are piling up.  Dealing with money matters is becoming a herculean task as my memory is fading in respect of these issues.  I am becoming helpless thus. My children are very busy in their own activities and thus they have no time this side. They are already working hard and I cannot assign them these works. Because of this, they are not able to get what they want in time and are thus unhappy. Many times there is a lot of criticism from family members that I am a failure. All feel that I messed up issues. Trivial matters flare up!    One of my grand child’s responsibilities is with me which I cannot leave till he is a little grown. But, it is really a burden, I am noticing. I don’t know what to do in these circumstances!  Life is miserable!” Thus he spoke a bit sadly on the burning issues at home!

The friend listened to him ardently, paused a while, then smiled and said, “Look my dear, a steam engine has safety valve and you know the reason.  When the pressure builds up inside beyond the danger level, it blows off and thus avoids an accident. Should we not also allow this safety valve work in us in our lives? Yes!  We have to do that! Giving off, sharing, not taking up further works, winding up many issues, transferring the responsibilities to individuals who can handle the same and finally a renounced attitude are the safety outlets in this life at this age. You start doing the same and you see a solution to your problems.   Unless you propose, others do not look that side as they are busy in their own way.   As ultimately all these things go to them only, they will be interested if, in the right way the benefits are explained. No doubt, they show interest and find their own way of handling the issues. Through that they become more capable thus would be fit to handle still higher responsibilities. There are no limitations here. Everyone can do.  Only timely handing over and right education will do the job. Please do this way as I told, you will be freed from the trouble you have!”

While parting, he quipped softly in his ear, “Can you really lessen your emotions towards your grandson and your likings for holding power and money beyond that is required for you? Then only this would be an easy task. There lies all the catch! Think of this!”

Meaningful life....Right Faith....

A Great Saint had many disciples with him.   He used to give a number of discourses on Godhood and Ethics of life and many were His ardent followers.   No one could equal the Master!   He used to emphasize truthful living and everything for the good of people at large.  His own living style was a true depiction of His sayings, He was understood to be born to elevate the mundane beings in the right direction and was all the time understood to be the Upholder of Dharma and Authority on Scriptures….

No doubt the Saint was truly a Great Personality of the Era and His presence on the earth had a purpose!

One of His disciples  used to attend regularly His Discourses and Prayers, work in the Ashram in his allotted time and thus do equally a social service.  In his personal life, he almost adapted the concept of simple living and high thinking!

But all the time the disciple had one doubt in him which he could never get rid of!   He tried his best but the doubt had never vanished from his mind.   In fact it used to be a little vicious all the time and wild thinking was the outcome of that! The disciple  was thus subjected to lots of push and pull and in time he got very much disturbed with his so called evil thoughts while rest of his friends were blissfully involved themselves in the activities without a single doubt!

One of the days, there was a discourse by the Saint on the subject, “How deep faith can do wonders!”   A poor lady who had no money but great faith in her Master was finding difficult to cross a river daily in a boat with her meager resources to visit Him on the other bank.   One day she listened to the Great man saying how Lord Krishna’s father crossed the river with his faith established in God.   Inspired by that, she decided to cross the river herself with faith in God, the next day she did it!   “That way Deep Faith in us works!” the Master concluded his speech!

The disciple could no longer hold himself!  That day only, he waited, requested for an  interview with the Master and met him with all emotion. The moment he met him, he paid his salutations and said, “Reverend Sir, please forgive me for harboring the evil thoughts in me and give me a punishment for the same.  I doubt everything you preach, what you do and your own living style.   Can there be a greater sin?  I am totally lost!” he wept!

The Saint looked straight into his eyes and said, “My dear, who said you are a sinner and do wrong things?   In fact, I consider you as my true disciple!  Your mind does not allow belief without solid proof, a great quality I am seeing in my disciple!  Please go ahead with your enquiry and questioning thus for ever…Never get into a belief and become static!  We both have to continue this enquiry.  Out of this enquiry only, one elevates himself/herself.  Never end up in the so called blind faith!  Question .... Question …. Question…..everything.... Let the enquiry spirit burn!  That way, you are in true faith!”

The disciple had no further doubt !

The Only Way of Living Happily….

True responsibilities are only over a period of time and they surely taper off in numbers.  A seeming responsibility with one beyond a time is attachment and it is very difficult to draw a line here!   But broadly, all responsibilities have to be understood as limited sometime; somewhere….Each personality has this limit defined in a fine way!

It goes….A Sage was a highly evolved Personality meditating all the time in his Cottage. He had a goat kid with him by the side. He used to feed it when he was not meditating that is all! Somewhere there was a string of attachment in this activity….

The Saint had to take one additional birth because of this string of attachment before he attained The Eternal, where in all attachments dropped out! That is the power of attachment!

The responsibilities which are with us taper off towards the fag end of life, a major portion much before. There is no point in go on telling that ‘I have to do this or that’ or go on running around where the actions are not required from one’s own Dharma nor expected in general….

If this is not followed,

Soon the world tells firmly one to stop or the body stops by itself before that….that is the end of these activities!  No one should wait till these signals come out…..

So let one be alert here and do that which is bestowed on him/her as ordained duty….difficult to assess and address….but still the right and the only way of living happily….

The Safe Sailing….

The oft repeated story in brief….

An old lady had a domestic fowl which used to give out its favorite wake up call in the early mornings at 0400 hrs!  She used to get up and the village simultaneously. The old lady thought, “The village gets up because of me!”   She moved to neighborhood village one night with her fowl and came back next day morning. The village as usual was awake!

This is how oft an individual feels with respect to his/her interactions in the world.  Sometimes this attitude in one is the cause of feeling neglected  in his/her activities. 

Instead let one look at life this way!

I am there in life around people because of a complex net work of relations and interactions. The interactions are continuous in real time. I have a role to play in each interaction from ‘totally involving’ to ‘totally keeping quiet’ mode. The earliest I sense this level of 'involvement' or level of 'keeping off' to the nearest, I am a safe player!   Else this feeling of neglect will be oft striking!

Let us hope that next time we sense this level the right way and act!

The safe sailing….

A Way Life Moves....

The Great Statesman freed the slaves and told them, “You are free now!   Please go and live happily here afterwards!”

A few sincerely told him back, “Sir, Where do we go? We are accustomed to taking instructions from our masters along with their scolding, thus do our work and spend our day.  Now we don’t know what to do and everything is strange; not our way!”

That is the effect of getting brain washed over such a long time!   Even slavery looks all right!

The saying goes…. We start eating neem fruit continuously; it tastes sweet after some time….

If we look the other way at life,

The entire world like above experiences chained in all interactions but somehow happy that way….That is the illusion….

In this scenario, a Great Master of true understanding having the best interest of conveying to the world what He experiences always faces people, some of whom will show interest and some will oppose….It depends on the prevailing social and economic conditions, the traumas people were subjected to in recent times and the existence of similar Great Personalities around in sizable number simultaneously as Nature has its own plan of enlightening sizable number at a time once in a way….

Thus all preachings around us have limited influence on us!

Something heard in this context….

A king turned Saint had great interest to convey what he had experienced as truth to many people….

He originally approached the Emperor. The Emperor laughed and said, “I am the supreme here. Who are you to tell me?”
Later, he went to a man of ultimate learning. The learned man retorted, “Should I tell you or you should tell me?”
Then he went to a businessman.   He shot back, “What benefit do I get if I listen to you?”
Finally he went to an ordinary man. He lamented, “I am totally tired with my day’s work. I do not have energy and interest to listen to what you say….”

Thus, the Saint could not approach any one!   He felt, “There is no taker of this at all.   Let this truth ultimately be digested within me only!”

Meaningful life....The Way in front of us....

The truth known to me is always the relative truth.

The absolute truth is at Infinity and with a finite body I am always away from the Infinite!

  
I have to lead my life only at a level of truth known to me as that alone is safe for me.  Below this level, conflict is eternal and above this pain associated is not less.

Thus both these patterns of life become a sort of copying something; not the original!

Then a question may arise; what for it is said all the time, “Do always good." when my level is limited?  How can I do good everywhere in such scenario?

It is a real question one may ask!

But, there is an answer….

Having assessed myself the relative level of my Understanding, the first and foremost activity I should contemplate upon is my total plan in this life towards a reasonable safe sailing through along with vagaries of Nature  existing around to some extent.

This is the first discipline that should be with me!  In fact, our elders, all societies and cultures around have shown us the path already….

Having firmly embraced this life, within this arena I should continuously work for people around for their good, simultaneously taking care of me well and thus evolve.

This way I may be freed from many wrong beliefs, ideas and dogmas and arrive at a common code of the highest ethics which always stresses only one point….”All are equal!”

Yes, if I understand this truly, what else is needed to be achieved in this life?

This is all I should do in this life; rest is God’s grace!

Why not follow this discipline?

@@ Nature, Life and Beyond....Everything can Teach....

It was raining cats and dogs that day in Cumberland, RI! 

I was near the window of my flat at second level seeing the downpour. 

A huge car came down and the driver parked the car 

Opposite to my window away on the other side of road. 

"Get down and walk home......" 

The driver spoke in a little high pitch and 

His voice merged with tittering sound of incessant rain drops! 

The front door opened.... 

Lo! To my surprise, Bernese mountain dog got down slowly without a jump from the vehicle and stood there a minute. 

He took a 90 deg turn and started walking slowly and majestically towards my block. 

Got on to foot path, made a perfect 90 deg right turn and 

Made the next  90 deg left turn at the entrance of his flat and walked in 

With no jerk and slowly disappeared from my sight all together 

The rain drops ever striking! 

What a marvelous scene I had seen! 

My heart filled with unexplained joy to see such a discipline in the mammal, of course 

The joy was partly I was not in front of him!! 

As I was engrossed with the thoughts of 

Beauty of discipline in Nature and every creature around me exhibiting the same so faithfully, 

I simultaneously understood that 

There should be no shortage in me to be indisciplined any moment in life and thus slowdown but be on toes all the time everywhere to help the Creation around me to express its best wherein only my safety lies forever eternally…. 

The great learning....

Individual, Family and Society....Truly Elder....

The ten signs of a true elderly person are

When all additional presentations of one’s personality in outside world to appear younger than his/her age are totally left out....

When one is fully aware that every where there can be a problem, but is always ready with a reasonable solution....

When one limits his activities in the world to the true level his/her body and mind do permit....

When one limits his/her activities in respect of family interactions with a feeling that enough interactions for life were already done....

When bringing up a grandchild is seen as the true responsibility of his/her child and never his/her own whatever the situation may be....

When one understands that part of one’s wealth can be used for justified cause in the world as per his/her wish and rest only for oneself and his/her progeny....

When one is fully aware that till last minute it is better one does his/her work feasible by himself/herself only....

When one realizes that it is better consumption in the world is minimized everywhere in respect of himself/herself....

When one understands that living the present life is good enough and all is well done so far and no regrets....

When one ultimately lessens his partiality whatever and sees that everyone around has his/her right to live in a decent way….

Nature, Life and Beyond....An Inquisitive Spirit....

It is said that the ‘Entire’ can be explored with 6 ‘W’s and 1 ‘H’; that’s all!

They are questions beginning with Why, What, Who, Where, When, Which and How….

It may look strange, but it is a fact that even Divine Experiences are associated with truthful enquiry through these questionings….In fact, our entire life is a series of explorations….But, when we get into enjoyment mode this exploration tendency becomes dull and in a hobby expression, it is in the front….

A short story here….

In a certain village there was a huge cave a little away from the village. A belief existed among villagers that there is a demon inside the cave  and no villager dared to enter the same. They constantly lived under fear and through one more belief,  the villagers daily left certain food in front of the cave for the demon, to please it….

A young man in the village was of adventurous and inquisitive type. He felt strongly that he should be free from this fear in life. It was always better for him to see and assess instead of blindly following something.  He somehow convinced the villagers, that he wished to go in, see inside and come out and they should not bother for this….They agreed finally with lot of reluctance….

The young man went inside, made a round, saw nothing and came out declared to all outside that there is nothing! There after he lived happily ever without fear; the villagers continued in the same state may be a little better off…. 

The story is for story sake but the learning is....

The young man had put the relevant questions to himself and that was the end of his fear…!  Many of such questions to find out ‘IN’ and ‘OUT’ of me can be put to 'ME' continuously by myself. Young age is the best time; not that other times are not!

May be the lucky ones one day find an end for their suffering in the world!

The highest find out and wroth to find out….

Meaningful life....Something may be Worth Doing....

I heard in my childhood this....

The great man had said, “It is not that important what type of life a person lived through; it is how happy a person is when he is exiting the world!”

As we introspect ourselves we may find in us always a left out unfulfilled wish and a fear of losing something....

The determination here should be, “Can I be a little free in this; the full may not be required and may not be possible…?” And this little freedom with me to act or decide is a great peace and happiness in life….In fact, many issues I daily pursue with all vigor really do not have overall impact in my life! ....

A little more detail....

All works I do daily are of two types; of course all lawful ones: 

1. Works which must have to be done else I and people around me suffer and
2. Works even if I do not do I and people around me are really not affected....

Am seeing this difference? That itself may be 50% strength!

The first type of works have necessarily to be done without looking this way or that way....

In respect of the second type, I can pause a while and observe the reactions….Then,  I will notice that as I am mostly afraid of reactions from the world and due to my own weaknesses, I am doing these works and I can go slow, pause or do not do.... 

Here alone I should always experiment a little, however small it may be…It will never go waste….and that much strength I will experience…

People around me appear as if they are ready to shun me which is not true, but  if I stand firmly without moving away, I soon find that people start accepting what I do and encourage…

This trial needs all the start and hold on in the direction.... that’s all and this only leaves me in a state what is said in the beginning!

But if I am a little doubtful in attempting this, it appears to me that I am being resisted from doing this which is not true.... and that way, in the end I will end up in a state away from above!

In a market area we hear the bustle from a distance. But when we go near, each detail is clear. In the same way if we pay attention, everything would be clear....

Why not attempt something in this direction? 

Meaningful life.....A Better Way....

An old joke goes…

A group of young people went out an evening to camp in a forest for the night.  They took everything along with them but forgot drinking water.  They searched around for a source, found a small  stream in the area.  They collected  water in middle of the stream, filtered a few times through a piece of cloth and allowed water to stay in a vessel.  Then they took out the clear water on top after sedimentation, thoroughly boiled it on a fire a few times and cooled the same.  At the end they decided, “Why to drink this water in a doubtful situation?  We will drink the alcoholic beverage  we brought with us which also has  water and take only minimum quantity of water as required.”

The meaning of above…. If I like some thing, ultimately I end up doing that.... I will have my own explanations and sincerely reason out to suit me!  Further, this appears very much justified to me in the scenario!

We often notice  in the world, neglect of duties assigned to people. 

Elders are neglected by their wards,

Spouse and children are not properly cared for,

The man at receiving end is rebuked and insulted etc., and

Lastly one neglects his/her own health, wealth and safety by adapting  wrong paths.

Here in, the problem is that one gives more importance to his/her liking than what is required to be done in a given situation.  A small change here sets right many issues in the world, however small it may be.  This change, to an extent possible to me, should always be attempted by me  and be in the direction of improving myself for ever.  it is a discipline!  This leads to a great strength in a person to face all challenges in life.  This strength is different from physical, mental, social, economical and political strengths and the  associated peace is there for every one around.  

This way we can make life on earth better for all of us! 

Nature, Life and Beyond....The Change....

I maybe at cross roads when I start getting the thoughts….

The people are always the same.
I have no alternative other than live with them.
If I refuse to do so also it does not matter for them; they will choose another one in my place.
The man thus follows the same routine.
This way living is endless on this earth…. as long as my life is planned here….

Thus, emotions of people around me and of me may expect…. All this nonsense should end…

It is to be understood that the problems that always plague world are dishonesty & corruption and violence associated with these…. They never seem to vanish whatever we think of doing in front of us…. 

What really required is ‘Change’….

This ‘Change’ is a difficult phenomenon to happen, not impossible, but the way it happens is not what we think.  The Change never comes through any action so easily!

Protesting does not bring the change.
Non co operation does not bring the change.
Fighting does not bring the change.
Forcing people will not bring the change.
Punishing does not bring change….

All above may show temporary change to divert the attention.  Real change comes only when a person changes who ever it may be.   When that happens in reality for reasons unknown and which will never take place through finite number of actions, it is Total Change!

A short story in this context….

The head of one of the families was all the time philosophical in his talks and never interested in results but was caring and hard working. His spouse was very much unhappy with his attitude and all the time rebuking him for not caring for the family like others do. He used to say that he had been doing the best to his ability and never neglected a single action which was true but submitted humbly that he would not be able to show the results. But she never allowed him to talk this way and repeatedly used to tell how her brother as a family man had planned everything for his family like day to day money requirement, growth in his wealth, children’s education and marriage, retirement pension and finally how he decided to quit home at Sixty five years and take up renunciation and reiterated that such a man only is really fit for renunciation.… She questioned her husband’s plan of action in this direction… The husband told her firmly that it is not way to renunciation. To a challenge from wife on what then is the right way, he said, “I will show you”. Immediately he went out, shaved off his hair, purchased a pair of saffron robes, a stick and a water kettle, wore the robes and came back home. His wife was furious. She asked what nonsense he was doing. He smiled at her and said, “This is renunciation” and quickly left home for forest never to return!

This is what true change is!

It takes place once for all; the result….Nature provides all fruits of such a great man’s love to the entire universe and the world under goes a change towards happiness and peace.

The message is

I have to remember that change is not easy, it occurs once in a way and when it occurs that cannot be stopped… My job is only to make my house clean for the good effects to enter my home and bless all people. Meaning….Cleansing myself is the only thing I can do sincerely and should definitely do that!

Education, Enterprise and Money....WORK CULTURE....

TRAINING NEEDS AT WORK

Training at work is a concept through which the employee’s capabilities are continuously improved for competing and being in business.

The best human traits are the original capabilities. A few are: 

Good character is number one capability.
Good physical and mental health are the best capabilities one can have.
If your work is what you like to do in life, the best capabilities are out in that particular field.
Lastly, accepting whole heartedly all limitations in oneself as they are but still be Optimistic in life is the highest capability an individual can have.

Beyond the original capabilities, other capabilities can be improved through dedicated regular training only, the reason being: 

Capabilities are built through time.
Repetition improves capabilities.
Knowledge levels define capabilities.
Good references are capabilities.

Every employee is to be compulsorily trained in his skill areas on a regular basis.  If you don’t undergo training regularly, you are no more competitive.

An employer, who does not spend time and money on training, will be soon out of  business and the employee working there will be out of job.

The employer may give you training with certain conditions but it is worth have the  
 training with all those conditions.

A cutting knife is sharp under two conditions:

Involved in continuous cutting process and 
Repeatedly sharpened by external agency

Else, it gets rusted and is thrown out.  We are no way different. 

Training in related areas of your core competency is the best.   But training in other related fields is equally required.

Broader knowledge is the personality.   Effective personality helps progress the work and sells the same. Core competency plays fewer roles in the above.

Remember if it can reasonably be established, the customer is happy to pay for the employee’ s training cost.

Training caters for better competitive skills; out-smarting stays no where near to it.

All trainings are of three types:

Theoretical conceptual training
Supervisory/managerial/personalitydevelopement training
Latest job knowledge related training

All the above trainings are a must during the employment.

Finally to Remember

Knowledge is strength then why be weak?

Meaningful Life....An Introspection....

The Joy of Life….is never away from us….Am I listening?

There is no reason for not being  healthy, happy and prosperous in life.

If some one is lagging in any one of the above  three, let it be only under the condition that one has done the best in this direction but still Almighty has other plans for him/her…

The belief goes that the wandering soul takes a birth on this earth as per its free wish and enters the chosen mother’s womb accordingly!

So, I am free before birth itself to do what I wish!

Here the caution…. Not to overuse that freedom to work against my own happiness, health and prosperity….

So, the introspection….Am I working at any time against these?

A moment of indiscipline in life does that damage!

But Mother Nature gives me always the chance….

In my routine, I can always correct myself!

If not today at least tomorrow or day after but definitely soon!

And Mother Nature is kind.

She provides me enough number of chances to make amends for the failure.

Let me make a note of the same, and straighten myself this way….the earliest….Barring this, there is no other great achievement in life! 

Nature, Life and Beyond....A Discipline....

Life is a beautiful journey and freedom is the gist of living.  So expressing one hundred percent should be the way of life.

But my living is always supported by three things....Health, Safety and Work…. Taking care of these three to the core is wisdom because body expression is possible only when these three are supportive and this Eternal Law applies for ever….

Of course, luck overtakes sometimes these three and makes life possible the other way for me but wisdom takes a back seat when I leave everything to luck and  neglect the core....

Here, a discipline to follow is the order of the day....

What ever may  be the turmoils of life, I will   always be  happy, because to be happy is the gist of life and nothing less.  No one can stop me from being so!  Hence, let always the tough situations in life  be out of what the Almighty plans for me, not out of my carelessness and misdeeds and I can still be happy as usual in these times.....

Sometimes,it may be  a wonder that  events happen that way, but even where hard work, dedication and honesty are the key, they may happen that way only....except, that  we should wait in Time queue till  God' s plans are through....

So, I am  waiting patiently in the queue…..my turn is coming….Let this wisdom prevail in me!

This way only I have to express myself... meaning...without loosing an iota of grip on what Mother Nature tell me....

Mother Nature is very kind…If I go out of way, She gives me many times a small whip but puts me quickly back into activity… But am I listening to her?  I start repeating the wrong , She becomes progressively  helpless and the Demon in life takes over….and  should I hand over myself to Demon?

Here lies the Wisdom…

It means, there is great difference between expressing myself as I wish and expressing  the right way and let me be alert every moment and remember for ever that..... 

If I derive happiness in life through activities which are against  taking care of body, caring for people and work, there I come to a total  full stop may be the rest of life.....

Meaningful Life....Work.... The Greatest Stress Buster....

All problems can be resolved in time.... only through time....

Mental adjustments do come....

Reality rules....

True problems surface; fictitious problems take  back seat....

Right personalities will be recognized....

Few friends will stay stand by....

True love prevails; false appearances vanish....

and that way only......

Life goes on........

So wait, wait, wait.... Patiently wait....

Calm the mind and in this time....  

Just do work, work and only work....  No other  activity.... helps....

Individual, Family and Society....The Right Way in Life....

Well before marriage, an individual may be thinking about his married life…‘It looks so funny; it looks so interesting; it looks adventurous; it looks such a gain...’

He gets into the knot, starts enjoying the life and feels that he is at the brim of life but soon a few may realize that they are at the brim of a cliff in their lives… from where escape seems impossible in any direction……. This happens not to all but a few may seemingly be in endless messy affairs…

The iron hand of law one side if at all known, the social compulsions, own personal requirements and finally difficulty to face one’s loneliness which in fact is the only force that drives all of us into the tie, come in the way of getting out…

There may be comedy in life before marriage but after marriage it is real and life looks like a real comedy for a few.  Finally, lamenting for the rest of life becomes the order of the day. The life may totally look like a joke….

A few hilarious sayings in this direction.....

A married man always wants to watch /run his wedding video album in the reverse direction so that he slowly walks out of the church as a FREE MAN freed for ever.....

Marriage is the continuation of higher studies and I’ ll never pass the tests!

Yawn : The only time some men ever get to open their mouth in their family life....

In order to see that his wife never makes an issue, a man fixed up with local Florist to deliver her flowers on their Wedding Anniversary every year as he may forget the day. The problem surfaced when his wife told the next Anniversary day that she received the flowers and he asked her, "What for?”

Some continuously suffer in life and some cover up with brave face. The lucky ones who have understanding partners don't know this suffering…

But then, what is the solution?

Not leading slavery life, smiling when not at all interested or leading life like a living corpse…. Also putting up brave face coming out of relation is not the ultimate; may be a temporary solution for a few….

In fact, we are born to live in relation and so we soon make another trial else we are unstable.....

The best solution is very simple.

Understand that it is a duty.....it is a work... and there is no escape from it....

If done well on lines of Dharma, there is no praise from the receiver but there is peace for self.

If this sacred duty is neglected, there is censure from everywhere and may be threats from every corner.

Even when I leave the world with neglected works; rebirth is a must to repeat the right….

So the only way is: do all for family and retire empty handed and no left out memories…… That is salvation and one may not need a re-birth at least for the finished portion of duty. Only higher birth to finish higher responsibilities is the way up ladder the next. Infinite ways of doing is the ultimate birth less state with dawn of Gynana, The Supreme Knowledge!

An Insight....

Me

There is a purpose for my living!  I have to find out that through a constant search in me only and see where I am totally at ease, can contribute the best in that field and get 

lost when involved. That  life, I have to live through at all costs even sometime at least in a day every day. 

Health

1. Health is the primary requirement in life.  We have to sacrifice anything for that.
2. If I don’t have health, my life has no meaning.
3. Health is controlled consumption, sweating out and being happy.
4. Health may fail in spite of my care but carelessness in maintaining health is to be

    totally avoided.

Work

1. It is the second most important requirement in life…. Work gives me food!
2. If I do not work I become poor.
3. Work gives protection from environment threat.
4. Work gives engagement in time.

Finance

1. Regular earning is a must in active life.
2. Controlled safe loans alone should be with me.
3. Spending money in proportion to earning is only to be practiced....’Do not sell 

    properties and spend.’
4. Saving money is a duty.

Family

1. A family is required because I don’t know what to do in life after working, eating 

    and sleeping.....
2. A family uses exact money, time and energy in life from me even though they appear 

    more in quantum.  If family is not there, my available time creates habits in me which
    consume more and  more time, energy and money as days pass ultimately leading
    to catastrophic  figures. 

3. When I interact with family, I am forced to forego my comforts and pleasures to 
    a great extent and use the resources associated on the family members thus
    creating a  sharing habit in me. This great living ultimately  generates Peace in me 
    else from where do I get that? 

4. Lastly to say, family interactions are less enjoyable and demand more responsible 

    actions from me in life.  If  I am not interested in a family, more responsible actions 

    towards members of society have to be taken up which may not be the standard of 

    my psyche.  Here lies the trap.  Leave the family; leave the society ultimately  where
    am and with whom am I?

Where we stand....

A parable modified and retold........

One day, a certain man in a village, out of his curiosity visited a near by astrologer's place to know his future....

The astrologer told him with all firmness, “I am sorry to tell you this!  As I see, it is strange that by sunset today, there is a big catastrophe in your life as you drink a harmless sweet dish.” The man was astonished at this prediction and left the place a little confused!  But he was still feeling confident that nothing would happen….Any how as a precautionary measure, he decided to go home and take nothing for the day as food and drink till sunset.

On reaching home to his surprise, he found his wife cooking a sweet dish with all aroma all round.  On enquiry, she replied, “Last week, because of some urgent pending works, I could not celebrate your birthday.  Today, I found some time and decided to remember the day with some sweet for lunch.  Please wait a while before I serve the same."

As he could not explain further to her, he hastily left home promising the spouse to return in a short time. In order stay away from all food and drink, he decided to go to the nearby woods for the day and come back after sunset.  Thus, he headed for the forest and reached a comfortable spot.  To be further sure, he further climbed a good tree and rested there on a huge branch deciding not to get down  till sunset.

A little while later, a group of travellers going that way came there and rested under the tree for a good shade.  They collected some fire wood around and started preparing their lunch for the day.  Lo! Here they were preparing only  one item for lunch i.e., a sweet dish!

The man started getting a little worried at this point of time.  Any how, he decided not move from there….As the travellers spread out themselves to eat their lunch, suddenly a gang robbers attacked them.  Seeing the robbers, the travellers ran away from there leaving their belongings.  The robbers happily collected all the valuables and when they were about to leave, one of them said, "We are hungry and it is lunch time.  Why not we eat something and go?  Any how, I see some good food  is ready here."  All others immediately concurred with this idea.  But the Chief totally opposed this and said, "Look! Our discipline is never to eat any unknown food without testing. This tasty sweet dish in this place...., I doubt some trap laid by the king to catch us.  He might have got some poison mixed in this.  So better, we do not touch this.  Also some spies may be watching us around.   So, let us be alert.  Any how, it is very hot now; it is better we rest a while under this tree and decide what to do later."  Saying this, when the Chief rested on the ground, to his great surprise he saw the man there directly above.  Immediately he shouted aloud, "See, I told all of you.  This man is the spy sitting here to trap us.  Any how, now I will teach the king a lesson."  With this, he ordered him come down the tree.  The man was totally at his wits ends. He got down and immediately tried to run away from the spot.  The Chief physically caught him and said, "Do you want to fool us?  I will teach your  king a lesson.  You wanted to poison us, is it not?  Now, come on!  You will only drink this whole bowl of sweet dish kept for us."   With this, the Chief forced the man drink the dish. The man out of panic resisted violently and all the while maintained not to drink the same thereby confirming in the minds of robbers the king’s plan of poisoning them.  The Chief became furious and beat the man left and right and physically poured the entire bowl of sweet into his mouth and made him drink the same.  Subsequently, the robbers left leaving him in that condition thinking that he would die of the heavy poison!

Yes, the man succumbed after drinking the sweet as he was beaten black and blue!

When destiny strikes,  there end one's all and aspirations!  Having done the job the best, a sincere Prayer to God leaving interest in the result to a large extent is only the way of securing Peace for ever....

Responsible actions....

1.   I should never give free hand totally to some one while handling/discharging my activities both pleasurable and duty bound.  He/she may not be interested the way I am interested.  He/she may not be answerable the way I am answerable. 

2.   I should spend at least a part of my attention on true responsible activities and not on those interesting to me.  True responsible activities generate peace in and around me. 

3.   I am selfish to a great extent.  I should remember that the quality of self is important in discharging my responsibilities effectively. 

4.   I should remember that I lived with some one for a long time not because I could adjust with the other but because I looked into and cared for the other in a responsible way.  So always I should act in a responsible way to keep relations. No chocolates will help. 

5.   I should be prepared to leave a person if he/she proposes irresponsible action and recommends too much pleasure.  But I should join the same person, the moment his/her attitude changes. 

6.   I enjoy the day’s work in the evening only if I work in the day; the week end if I work all days in a week; the month end with salary if I work all the weeks; the year end with a raise if I work all the months.  Enjoyment is to be preceeded by responsible actions.  I should do responsible actions through out the life and thus be at peace.  

TRUE MANAGER....

EVERY ONE KNOWS HIS/HER WORK.

EVERYONE KNOWS ONLY HIS/HER WORK.

EVERY ONE SHOULD DO HIS/HER WORK.

EVERY WORK TAKES SPECIFIED TIME.

EVERY WORK HAS TO BE COMPLETED.

EVERY WORK IS IMPORTANT.

I SHOULD DO ONLY MY WORK.

I SHOULD DO MY WORK WITH DEVOTION.

I SHOULD MY WORK WITH EASE.

IF YOU TRULY KNOW THE ABOVE  YOU ARE THE MANAGER.