Thursday, April 30, 2015

THE SEVEN 'EVER GREEN' TRUTHS OF MARRIED LIFE....

  • The saying goes that marriages are made in heaven conveying a meaning that fate alone many times rules there as the actual married life is be physically lived on earth with lot of push and pull a few times making some feel a hell like environment around but all along the sincerity of the partners and presence of the good people from both sides of the relation alone are forever the assets here! 
  • Before marriage, friendship and wooing may look like a honeymoon experience but after marriage they definitely have to face the blazing sun and withstand which of course, does only the ultimate good in one's life.... 
  • Familiarity is forced to breed contempt every where unless one is quite attentive at every moment.... And the fact is... In marriage, the parties are too familiar! 
  • A few times, marriage may become a great pain and separation looks inevitable but that again has its own problems hitherto never imagined where in a lot of attention alone becomes the ultimate safeguard.... Further, one may wish for a better partner after separation but may end up with not so too in few cases! 
  • Saving a marriage may look like swallowing the pride; but pride in front of whom is the question as none else can really assure or guarantee the original dynamism back to life.... 
  • The moment the partner is out of scene, a few 'In-laws' hither to looked so close may look almost like outsiders instantaneously.. It's no wonder here because that's how the reality of life is woven around all of us! 
  • The golden discipline in married life is.... Carry Mutual respect for each and work to core for maintaining the same forever remembering the fact that a few around may look like very close people instantly but are definitely far less before the partner in fulfilling that single unique role!

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

IT'S EVER A WONDER BUT CONTINUES FOREVER!

  • I am no one to ask the other man to change as I just have to change only myself.... But funnily the 'Opposite' alone goes on unending with me and whenever I attempt changing myself, it looks the easiest because really I do not change so easily!
  • I am no great chooser in my life except accepting that with me 'As Is' and according to that go on modifying my 'Expectations!' But what to do? I already bundled my 'Sure Expectations' neatly packed and kept ready in my Cup-Board.... Further, I never feel less at any time for aiming thus and this alone is the one activity I do 'Very Well' in my life! 
  • I hardly know myself.... But you ask me, I can talk extempore volumes and volumes of any 'Corner of the World' because my that knowledge is never limited.... 
  • Every one loves his / her freedom very much but I quickly forget this and in no time would be trying to stop someone's aim / plan in life as I like that a lot till on a day, that same person almost stops me physically doing that! 
  • My activities are actually just a speck amidst the Universal Happenings, but I ever strongly feel that I only move the entire world around! 
  • My extra capabilities should ultimately help the less capable, but often strangely I auction these for a price which the needy are forced to pay at the back of an unnecessary fear I instill in them out of my skills for pure personal gain.... 
  • Truly speaking, my mind continuously plays double infinite dramas before I take firm control of myself but strangely, I feel that I all by myself am under full control! 
  • In reality, my any extra movement than required is a hindrance in the world but my constant aim forever makes me expand myself to the nook and corner of the same world! 
  • If I can just manage my time well without pain, I have truly conquered myself but I very often 'Kill' this time thru' too many avocations not knowing what to do with it thus coolly and safely store the pain for future release in an avalanche form.... 
  • If I cannot dance on my own, my life is nothing but a 'Prison' but many times, I happily 'Welcome' my Prison by simply surrendering myself there beyond.... 
  • If I fail, I have the message ‘Wake up!’ but I, very often quickly get away from that 'Escaping' into my own world happily! 
  • Had I known my limitation, half of my job would have been done well but since I never care there, I forever end up necessarily blaming the fate for all my troubles.... 
  • Again, had I simply stood for a moment to the others’ adverse comments, half of my tensions would have gone for a life time, but since 'Giving Back' is very attractive, the same tensions never leave me for the life time!

Sunday, April 26, 2015

MY WISDOM FOREVER SHOULD HOVER AROUND....

"Working hard and earning good monies, taking care of family and expressing in the unique way one wants.... No doubt, these are the 3 Entities that are very important in our lives but I feel that caring for my job and earning good monies should be the first priority here.... Money is very important in our life and as long as energies are there earn max, save enough and lead life in a safe and secured way! Anyhow, the family can be happy only if I have sufficient monies.... If you ask.... Pursue what you want in life and express yourself.... I'm sorry, I don't understand what that exactly means.... ” were the oft spoken words from a man of mid forties….

“I agree that Working hard and............are important in our lives but life is full of emotions and caring for the family forms the core activity in life.... No doubt working & earning monies are important but there is a limit to that too... if you get into this madness, you will forever miss the golden moments of life spending a good evening with the family.... Further children need personal attention and a parent can do a lot there.... You can't lose that time for any thing else.... Expressing myself.... if you ask, it may be this alone that.... Who knows?” were the assertions from  another man of similar age….

“I too agree that Working hard and............are important in our lives but life is equally full of surprises and meant to be jovial and expressing max in exploring! I am basically something within myself and unfortunately I have a Job with me for my earning which never fulfills that requirement.... The only way here is.... After taking care of my work and family reasonably, let me just spend sometime in what I wanted to be in my life.... And I sure know what that is ..... ” were again the words of a third man of contemporary age….

“I definitely agree that Working hard and............ are important in our lives but further to this, life is finally meant for Spiritual Practices and Penances.... I am the ‘Higher Self’ in me and I have to work towards Elevating myself to that level through Spiritual Practices…. And this one aspect of progressing in Spiritual life should not be forgotten.... It needs constant practices and reading books on Spirituality, attending Discourses where possible, sitting in Meditation daily some time, imposing Controls in enjoyments and making friends of similar nature and interests are the core activities of this Elevation process... Let me never miss this activity whatever be the pressures around” was the firm belief of the fourth man….


Time never waits and aging never stops.... Naturally all have become old and all were more or less exposed to the roughness of the world equally and adjusted to the ups and downs of their life but all were still happy at their own level having felt satisfied that they lived the active days of their life well and achieved what they wanted even though there were gradations in that depending on the problems and adjustments with them.... But not the last man.... Who had become totally depressed indirectly as he felt very much at that point of time that he wasted major part of his energies doing something and reached ultimately nowhere!

The Wise man mused, "Unfortunately, the last man was totally misguided in life because Spirituality never lies in doing few distinct and time bound entities in life with an ever feeling that I'm different and am elevating myself in that direction.... It exactly lies there where I at my own level get into the active work whatever which I feel if done will make me complete in this life simultaneously doing a Service around to the world in the process.... Else, self deceit rules max in all the so called Spiritual Practices and often gives place to mushrooming of many unethical Religious Cults and Orders around without a say!"

To confirm on what the Wise man mused, Sloka 3 Chapter 4 of Srimad Bhagavad Gita where in Lord Krisnna says to Prince Arjuna was heard thus on the distant loud speakers recited melodiously with the meaning explained in parallel....


'Sa evayam maya te dya yogah proktah puratanah
Bhakto si me sakha ceti rahasyam hy etad uttamam'

'This very ancient science of uniting the individual consciousness with the ultimate consciousness (The Philosophy of Life) which is the supreme secret is being described by me unto you (alone) today because you are My devotee and friend (who is truly Eligible to live that life).'

Friday, April 24, 2015

THE 'ORIGINAL BLESSINGS' IN DISGUISE!

As the Aircraft started rolling on the runway, the gentleman in the middle seat in rear closed his eyes for a while in prayerful mode and further to that sat in an upright position in his seat.... The Plane picked up speed in no time with a roaring sound and was soon into skies at the back of a few side ward movements and certain up and downs…. The jolts were a bit nauseating but all in no time smoothed into the level flight…. The engines were at their full thrust and in the rear seating compartment the human audible levels had dropped down instantly amidst the constant sound of the engines…. The flight planned time was about 2 hrs….

The middle aged man seated next to the gentleman constantly looking out through the window appeared to be in a tense mood…. The gentleman noticed the same for a while and initially kept quite…. And the passenger in aisle seat next to him too was seen not at so much ease with a certain tension on his face…. But soon all had to smile at one another and in the process the middle gentleman casually asked the man in the window seat…. “Sir! Are you traveling for the first time and that too alone?”

“No…. Not the first time…. But of course, often I travel alone as I have go to on my Office Works to various places…...” replied the man casually....

“You seem to be not feeling well?”

“Yeah! You got it…. I'm suffering from this so called Aviophobhia…. The fear of flying…. And am not able to over come this whatever I may try!”

The other co-passenger heard this talk and immediately said, "So to say, I too have the same problem.... Actually I thought of going by train for this travel…. But there was not much time and my people said it's better I go by Flight…. For me too, it’s a bit scary to sit here like this!”

By then, the gentleman understood that both the men on his side were tensed up over the safety in flying…. Being a Frequent Traveler and having traveled widely to the corners of the world and enjoyed flying, he wanted to infuse a certain confidence and positive attitude in his co-passengers....


He felt proud, smiled at both of his new friends and said, “Sir! I feel I should help you both here…. If you listen to me on the subject, many of your wrong beliefs of flying will soon vanish and you can be freed from these Phobias or fears you have…. Let me try my bit, with your permission!”

Both the co-passengers instantly nodded their heads asking him to go ahead with that…. Meanwhile, a few drinks were served to them and they quickly finished all that….

The gentleman started, “Sir! The Aircraft we regularly travel are very safe…. So much of care is taken in building, maintaining and flying the Aircraft that with all confidence I can easily say flying is the safe way of traveling!”

The co-passengers were instantly seen showing an interest in his talk….

The gentleman continued….”See! We many times think that travel on ground is quite safe as we get a feeling there that whatever might happen, we are ultimately on a firm base…. And while flying, this feeling is shaken up a bit as we feel that we are hanging all the way…. Do you agree?”

Both the men's faces appeared brightened up….”You exactly sensed our thoughts…” they said together.... And the gentleman felt too proud with that single praise....

At that point of time a few refreshments were served to them…. The gentleman thanked the Hostess and said…. "See! They are serving tasty food too during our lengthy travel…. It’s time to relax and enjoy this travel!” And the co-passengers, nodded their heads in silence…

Having finished eating the food, the gentleman continued his talk on Flight Safety Aspects for a while…. At length he decided to bring out a few facts before his small audience…. He smiled and said, “See! Sir! You should actually go by statics available with us…. If you look into the world records of Air Travel and the accident rate…………………. That way seen, Air Travel is the very safe mode of transport anywhere in the world!”

Having concluded his talk with an air of pride seen on his face, the gentleman suddenly looked at his watch and said, “Oh! Its nice that we spent almost the full journey time talking on Flight Safety…. It’s time to land…. See, the Aircraft had already started descending…. We have to fasten our seat belts now and make ourselves ready for landing…." and having done that before the regular announcement, the gentleman concluded his talk, "This is one of the safety requirements to be followed during take off, landing and in times of turbulence….. Anyhow, I hope you both feel better now with all what I told and did during the travel…. That’s where one’s confidence really goes up and I feel I honestly did my part of the job here….


“Not exactly so…." said the window seated co-passenger with a distinct relief seen on his face.... "Mine is a deep rooted problem and am suffering from this Phobia since long time.... Earlier, I had gone for many Advices and many times I was told the same that you told us now.... And am constantly educating myself too on that and trying my best…. But strangely, the problem is continuing and it seems is never going to leave me so easily…. Any way, your talk of one and half hrs for almost the full length of the journey just kept my mind diverted from this very nauseating fear lurking in my mind…. That way you have really helped me a lot here….Thank you very much for the same!”

“Again, not really all that in my case too” said the other co-passenger with a mixture of expressions well seen on his face…. “Leaving all said and done, the one thing you did immediately as soon as the flight took off…. i.e., You closed your eyes for a minute and silently prayed to God, you know… That really infused the best confidence in me and I decided that here afterwards, I should mainly depend on this alone in all my future travel.... Anyway, thanks a lot for being with us this evening!”

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

LET THIS BE NO MORE A 'MISSED CALL' IN MY LIFE!


Yes!  Today the Earth is very much Calling.... And there is not an iota of doubt in this....  Again, we are only the persons here that have to rise to the occasion and respond.... Both at the Individual level and at the Community level and the Conservation of Nature around should be the constant thought in the mind of every one of us.... Else the precious Natural Resources with us are not going to last long.... And our Planet Earth no more would be our dearly loved Home....

To date back, man was very much natural in the beginning and was almost leading a normal life in the society with limited man-made modifications around.... In time, the attractions by the side slowly overpowered him and man started actively interacting with some of those items.... Here the instant correctness required was never asserted with the control part of it coolly forgotten.... Thus, he quickly developed a great interest in using them as they could instantly bring a miracle of change in his presentation and ease in the outside world and endlessly started seeking the additional Comfort which was invariably part and parcel of that.... 

Out of such Fascination, man started using those items regularly daily in his life adding more and more to the Cart continuously.... In course of time, life had become more of Comparison with the next man by the side than required making the cohesive part of human existence sidetracking.... 

As the Fascination was high, a quick solution was sought instead of going to the root cause of all problems.... Patience had no time and that way again quick solutions were readily available whose number was not limited…. And the effect was equally there with a color but that soon faded away exposing the damage it had done in turn.... And soon, all such instant methods were found to be nothing but the stop gap arrangements alone and no firm solution was found in sight…. And exactly speaking, this is the life today we have with us where in the Natural Expression of ours has dramatically undergone a change and is further changing continuously....

Thus, expectation of ‘Quick Results’ in our day to day life with the artificial life woven around has become the basic cause of the problems we face presently in respect of the natural degradation around us.... Our instant actions and knee-jerk reactions for getting over the trivial situations in the fastest way are doing all that damage presently talked of in this context…. If continued thus beyond a limit, Nature is firmly going to put a brake there without a say and those symptoms have already started showing up....

I should always remember that Nature forever expects me be doing a positive effort, keeping off for a while with certain cool and taking returns in limited quantities over a longer period.... Further, while getting out of bad situations that may crop up all of a sudden in my personal life, I should allow the situation to simmer for a while without deterioration by addressing the problem gently and should give minimum time required to recover from the tough situation.... Further too through a firm determination, I should be bold enough to allow the threat to be by the side to some extent, keep myself always prepared to face the attack through a discipline of what is required in the situation and thus be living my life in tune with Nature’s Original Discipline comprising of the key words…. 
‘Allow’, ‘Sustain’ and ‘Refrain!'

In the process of living such a life, naturally the 'downs’ continue for a longer time and my discipline simultaneously should reduce the impact of such 'downs' through timely actions by making use of ancient proven methods and modern convenience providers in equal parts....

Thus our 'Sacred Chant' of today's life invariably goes....


After asserting CORRECTNESS in every aspect of life, let me sincerely start exercising due CONTROL in my life wherever feasible by optimizing the COMFORT involved therein at the back of certain sacrifices, of course all along never leaving the CONVENIENCE aspects of my basic living and thus ultimately try retaining human COHESIVENESS around me 'as is' to the extent possible!

No doubt I cannot unwind all this and once again go back to the original life too as that life once upon a time had its own problems of rawness and a certain brutality.... So let me accept the highly evolved life in front of me as is at the back of certain distinct merits of its own but let me move along from now on-wards with a much required discipline of the day comprising of the following simple activities from my side.... And these activities, perfectly feasible for me in my day to day life if followed with due attention and extra small effort multiplied over days and with the like minded people around too doing the same would soon bring in significant contribution to the task of saving our Mother Earth from the imminent catastrophe which is very much on the anvil this moment....
  • Let the Public Transport be used for certain routine movements wherein hither to I was just looking at my vehicle keys for all such movements....
  • Entertain Car Pooling for to and fro Office travel on days easily feasible to do that.... 
  • Take a walk or cycle instead of taking a ride for moving short distances around....
  • Minimize the use of gadgets at home for a day and go for the old tested manual methods of doing the same works....
  • Eat and drink the various consumables at room temperature on certain days to experience a newness in place of the routine....
  • Take Home remedies for routine minor ailments and thus adapt naturally to the minor ups and downs in health....
  • Adapt in parallel to the usual medication, a different life style for addressing the chronic health issues....
  • Know the chemicals regularly used in life and say 'NO' to a few once in a way where feasible....
  • Engage actively with various body movements required in a situation for the cause of expressing in the natural way....
  • Try and water regularly the plants in the garden and be with Nature for sometime daily....
  • Have no shortcut walks across the grass fields; always take the existing walk paths even if they appear to be a little longer....
  • Enjoy the beauty of flowers of your garden bloom and fade naturally on the plant itself without touching them....
  • Cater a few extra minutes for locating the yesterday's carry bag before going out for daily groceries....
  • Avoid the artificial comfort around for a while and make a habit of exposing to the natural environment existing by the side.... 
  • Let hard copies be done with where in e-papers do the trick without a problem.... And
  • Let me be ever ready to add more to this list which activities would not greatly disturb my routine!
The 16 point Agenda of my discipline here together is very much conveying the right Response for the Earth Calling....Yes....'LET ME TAKE THE CALL!'

The Post is written as per the requirement of indivine Topic Earth is Calling http://greenyatra.org/ 

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

CHANGE Vs TRANSFORMATION....

  • A Rebel brings in a temporary change in the mind set of the people around for the extreme but indirectly unwanted actions required in the situation; a Leader on the other hand brings in a permanent change in the hearts of similar people for normal rightful actions required from their side….
  • A Rebel can only see a Rule of Authority in the issues in front all along carrying a hatred towards the Rulers thus spreading often a wrong message; a Leader forever sees only the 'bad' in such Rule of Authority minimizing the hatred involved in the process thus mostly staying nearer to the Great Saying, 'Hate the sin but not the sinner!' 
  • A Rebel many times can take the Followers up to the Altar Point alone as beyond that they would never be willing to sacrifice; a Leader on the other hand leads the followers boldly beyond to the greater heights invariably motivating them too do certain sacrifices at their own level for the Greater Cause…. 
  • A Rebel invariably is shunned by the Opponent Group where in they straight away prepare to suppress the movement directly or indirectly; here, the Leader often carries a Respect and Regard from the Opponent Group and sometimes even is blessed too by them indirectly…. 
  • A Rebel seeks the temporary Freedom of Expression for the followers and would many times may get it for them; a Leader without a say secures that permanently for Everyone around….
  • A Rebel’s sacrifice may make a dent on the coercion but most of the times ends there; but that of a Leader’s cuts through the same and tries to bring in a transformation in those who were behind the very act of coercion…. 
  • A Rebel may secure certain authority for the followers by bringing in changes in the legislation; a Leader sure does that, but in addition brings in a change too in the followers….
  • A Rebel invariably tries to destroy the energy behind suppression and secures a temporary solace in the situation; there, a Leader never lets that go waste and transforms and streamlines the same towards damage control, future growth and development…. 
  • A Rebel’s attitude sometimes creates a fear among the own Followers themselves with an explicit doubt on their faces, 'What is the end of all this?'; but that of a Leader forever makes the Followers feel safe under the protective umbrella invariably opened up for them with all reverence for their leader…. 
  • A Rebel attacked and immobilized by the Authorities may stand to end own Personality there by contributing a small share to the Change aimed at; a Leader will allow that freely but with a smile of forgiveness which invariably brings in a greater change in the hearts of those who were into the very act of suppression there by contributing a major share towards the Change….

Saturday, April 18, 2015

THE VICTORIOUS (MARCH) GO-AHEAD!

He was the child who a year back knew only one meaning to the two-word concept which his Mom had taught him.... "Say 'MUMMY UP' when you want to be carried!" and as on that day when his Mom squarely refused to carry him saying that he should walk, the Little One looked at his Grand Pa by the side and asked him...."MUMMY UP!"

And at that age when the Little boy on a day, walked ahead a bit and as the Mom said, "Dear! Come back!" smartly started stepping back on his tiny feet....

And it was the same age when playing the Traffic Police Game on his Tri-cycle with his Grand Mom, as the elderly Lady questioned her Grand Child with all sweetness why he jumped the signal, he looked at her for a sec and with a broad smile started jumping up and down on the Tri-cycle seat....





Such a naughty Little Kid growing up fast in the land far away from Mother Land on a day had to re-position himself on the newly purchased front facing car seat as his age permitted that 180 deg turn....

The cute Little One with a smile quickly entered the car as his Mom guided him and made him sit in the new seat…. She in a short time familiarized herself with the Fastening Mechanism, put on the belt over her kid and secured it firmly….

The car moved on…. The family was silent.... The Dad's thoughts were on how make up the extra expenditure incurred in buying the new seat while the Mom was busy observing the child by bending a few times forward and checking that all was well with him....

But the happening was totally different for the Little One…. From the monotonous earlier backward position having no reference to the movement of traffic and surroundings, it was simply turning half round facing the front….

The straight on-coming vehicles passing fast by the side of the car, the zooming road in front moving up towards the vehicle, a stream of flashing lights coming on eternally, big buildings and huge trees on the road side rushing past the vehicle and seen going over the windows on both sides and the traffic signals changing alternately with beautiful colors.... Red, Yellow and Green…. An entirely different World in front!

The Kid was highly excited…. And it was really a 'Sea of change' to his 'Freedom of Observation!' There was an instant inexplicable smile on the Little One's face…. He quickly understood, when his car would stop and move as the Signals coming up on the way changed in sequence….

Soon, the vehicle was at a Red Signal and all were silent including the Boy in his car seat…. And the count down started…. 4,3,2,1…..Yes…. The Red changed to Green and the Dad began pedaling the accelerator....

“Faster!” yelled the Little One so happily to the astonishment of both the parents, the only single word he knew at that point of time whenever he had to say, “Come on! Go!” with the explicit joy so clearly seen on his face as if a 'lost Kingdom' was got back!

Friday, April 17, 2015

THE 'DOSE OF TONIC' VERY MUCH REQUIRED IN MY 'DAY TO DAY LIFE!'

A mobile phone goes in Public… 'Kiska hai ye tumko intezaar main hoon na….' The man picks up the phone, identifies the Caller and shouts immediately “How many times I told you not to ring up to me like this? I can't extend any more help.... Enough is enough!” forgetting the great meaning of those very lines that were heard just before and instantly disconnects the phone in a harsh way while others around look at him curiously.... 

The mobile phone goes in an Office…. 'Jaya ho…'' The Official takes the call and after half a minute says in a harsh tone “You have disturbed me….No use of saying ‘Sorry’ now.... We are not sitting here to answer your non-sense questions.... Keep down the phone!' forgetting the very greetings his song uttered and cuts off the call mercilessly while others around suddenly keep a pin drop silence.... 

It is not a single case in isolation…. A few times, it happened in my life earlier and further will happen too if I am careless and expand beyond........ A strange situation where in all of a sudden, I find no control on myself!  But.... If I calm down a bit and look at the turmoil of the situation, I easily understand that my bout of instant anger indirectly depicts a constant unrest in me…. Meaning…. I am continuously aiming at something but it's not happening that way in my life.... Thus I am constantly made to toss between my 'Wish' and the 'Reality!’ 

Can I do some thing about this? 

The best solution appears to be…. A firm decision on my part.... Whatever be the inside turmoil, let me try to meet the very purpose for which I am connected to people in the world! This trial is truly worth attempting as it instills a Confidence, brings back Peace and restores Control over the situation for both the parties.... That's not all… It adds up bit by bit every time I do this thus making me more stable in my life at the back of a constant reminder within me that,
  • An escape here is no Salvation and getting glued to my own is nothing but petty selfishness....The Mid Path alone is ideal for Happy Living....
  • A midst the so called uncontrolled and unmanageable situations too my mental clarity can't vanish if I am determined to push thru' the so called 'worst' in front....
  • My confidence forever is a product of my Knowledge and Calmness, a product of the Inevitability in front.... It's better I see the Truth here as is....
  • Diverted energies truly produce a pain in life and exact effort put in ever frees one from that.... Why not simply rise to the occasion without a second thought?
  • At the honest level, the individual is truly known; dishonesty makes the man sure unknown indirectly.... Let me be honest in the given situation whatever be the forces within....
  • Fear goes when mind is cleansed and living to the Reality straight away cleanses the mind.... Then, why to tread the wrong path continuously harboring the meaningless fear within?
  • Being Humane in life is the basis for upholding the Principles of Dharma.... And no short cuts to this ever found to exist in this life....
  • Every observation of mine is a mixture of Truth and untruth; the proportion matters for greater calmness within me and the more calm I am, more truth part is seen which is a boon to me in my life....
  • Investigation and Exploration are the True Natural Traits in an individual.... Love and Peace around are the outcome of these entities.... Let none be stopped here at any time for one's own selfish gains....
  • Laws protect, Morals elevate, Truth frees.... Sticking to Law gives me a decent life, keeping up Morals make me truly Humane and sticking to Truth spreads Eternal Peace around.... Why miss such a Royal Living very much feasible and make it indirectly miserable?

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

SOME MANIPULATIONS.... TOTALLY 'IN REVERSE' AFTER A WHILE!


In the beginning....

“Yeah! I love my job…. A lot to do here…. And the money in hand is quite awesome.... But love my Evenings and Weekends too…. Can't miss them at any cost.... Of late, am seeing the Boss looking out for me almost daily.... He exactly comes out with a problem when the time is 5 and invariably when the next day is a holiday.... Oh! This way seen, there's no end to my work here.... Just have to look up for few excuses; no go!”

After 5 yrs….

“I may be a Supervisor/ Dy. Manager here I agree, but that doesn't mean that I am off from my family for life.... Want to be very much with my people daily in the Evenings…. And this Boss now a days is eyeing me a lot…. He expects me to stay over daily for an hr at least after 5 whether work is there or not…. He repeats saying.... A Senior Officer should set an example for the Juniors…. He doesn't go home but stops those who are interested to go…. Really a funny man…. Just have to manage the situation; no go!”

After another 10 yrs….

“Am the Group Head here and my Work is almost the unending type…. Want to spend a few Evenings with my family on week days but am not at all getting time for it…. The Boss frowns, the moment I ask for a day to go early forget about taking leave…. Any way, that’s the life here and equally the job too can't be neglected.... After all, the same family will not be happy if my Career is put on hold.... Just have to put up for the present; no go!"

In the next 10 years….

“As a Team Lead, my responsibility is quite high in my Dept…. And it's equally important that I set an example for my Juniors and other Staff…. Here, if I stay over daily for some time in the evenings, my people sure stick to their seats beyond the Siren hrs…. Of course at home, the works are no less, only are of different nature as now a days the children manage many trivial things all by themselves…. Just have to put up for the present; no go!"

In further 10 yrs….


“I am the HOD here…. A very responsible and dignified Post for my experience….. Any how at home, life is streamlined a lot except for 2 coming up major responsibilities from my side other wise the members are busy with their own works.... More important.... I have a Code of discipline at my work and all my Team Leaders need to be strictly coming under the discipline of staying a few hrs extra daily…. I know, they don't like it, but.... Just have to manage the situation; no go!"

And during the last 2 yrs of Service….

“This is GM’s Post…. No doubt, my HODs are doing their best but I should forever keep them on their toes…. The only way here is.... I should have my Daily Review Meetings (DRMs) on the day's progress of activities…. If I've to do this, I need to extend my stay here till 8 PM daily…. No problem, the children are grown up, are living with their own responsibilities and many times, the extended family now a days have their special evenings without my presence…. That way seen, can definitely go home late almost daily.... Let me go ahead with full swing my plans of conducting Daily Review Meetings (DRMs) with my people…. Am sure they'll be unhappy.... Just have to look up for few excuses; no go!”

Monday, April 13, 2015

IT'S NEVER A DAY'S LEARNING!


“Dad! I need some money.... Need for my....” the son was asking very meekly swallowing a few words in between….

“Pass your Schooling with Good Rank first and then only ask me.... Till then I'll only buy you what you want!” said the dad with all firmness....

And, the boy nodded his head with all obedience....

Soon that materialized and he was into his College…. “Dad! Can I have my money now? All my friends carry their own....” he was demanding a little more…..

“You should finish your Degree first before asking any money so easily.... Take this for this month and let me see where it goes!” was the dad's answer....

The son had to compromise there as there was no go and started adjusting with those little bits....

Soon he completed his Degree and got into his job …. “Dad! This is my first salary! Wanted to give to your hand first…” were his emotional words….

“Yes, dear! I’ll save this for you.... But out of this, keep sufficient monies for your personal needs and give me only the balance every month!” said the dad....

Years rolled by…. “I need some monies for investing and if I use mine, I would be left with nothing….” the son was murmuring….

“Monies are precious and monies are never in excess…. Don't ask me anything now!” was the dad's reply for that....

The then young man felt disappointed but there was no go for him and had to follow what his dad had said….

Some more years passed…. “I've many needs now…. And with my salary it's already a tight rope walk…. Want to do a planned investment but can't meet all those extra expenses without a support... And I need my own savings too for exigencies…. If you don’t give me, how can I ever grow in my life?” was his demand at that point of time....

And silence alone was the dad's answer at that point of time too....

A few months passed…. “OK! Don’t want your monies…. I have my own plans of better investing in a safe way….. Am no more keeping quite as all my friends are active in this line since long time…. Straight away going for sizable loan.... And I'll repay that with the growth expected in my job... Sorry to bother you!” were the son’s words then….

“No problem and take this one time check from me as a support here…. At this stage I can venture this much into your investment as I am a bit confident that from now on wards our finances are reasonably safe....

As you planned, for the balance go for a loan but remember, the Loan Giver checks you ten times before giving the loan and takes his installments through tough measures…. That way seen, you would soon be streamlining your spending and paying off your loan installments.... But here too don't think that the Loan Giver gives you the loan simply because you have a handsome salary.... I need to sign for you as the Co-borrower...." the dad smiled and said....

Years passed thus, the son was soon into his middle age with hectic busy life in front and the dad had become old... And there was a day, the son found some time to chat with his father on some of the issues with him.... The elderly gentleman listened to all that, nodded his head and said...."From now on wards, you are the right man here to handle all our money matters.... And I'm sure you will be doing this job well!' saying thus he called him nearer and whispered to him with a smile...."Still remember.... In this world, the Trickster is always smarter than you.... Be a bit callous in the matters, the monies change hands too fast.... So being eternally cautious is the only way here in our lives.... Further, this caution improves in us continuously with age there being no dead line here for this learning and goes on thus till the man's capabilities themselves start falling off! OK! Good Luck and Best Wishes for you in this great Mission of life in front of you right now!”

Friday, April 10, 2015

THE 'RIGHT PATH' OF ACTION IN LIFE!


"The Pride in me is a constant enemy by my side.... It sure brings in untold misery in the later part of life even though on the face it that looks very attractive.... I ever try here to never fall into its trap, keep constant attention in this direction and thus correct myself at every step when I deal with my life situations.... I sincerely feel that one should constantly be doing it and thus uplift himself / herself in their life.... What do you say?" the man asked his friend looking at him a bit eagerly....

"I agree very much to what you say here and I too sincerely feel that I should be off from the pride within me.... But, of late I noticed that this one issue with me appears never to leave me so easily or rightly to say may not leave me in this life.... Having reasonably seen where I am eternally limited, I firmed up to see a spade as spade and humbly start doing my duties with me as first priority.... Here, I sincerely feel that my all energies should go into these actions as much as possible rather than trying to achieve something truly to say an Utopia of my life!" said his friend with all firmness....

"I'm sorry I can't agree with you.... Keeping off the evil in me is my first duty in this life and I can't accept any half-hearted attempt here and thus be supporting the pride in me indirectly!" the man asserted....

The friend smiled and kept silence....

After the friend left, the man had a certain doubt in him on the Topic and to confirm on what he was doing was the right the next day, he visited the near by Monastery, payed his Respects to the Head of the Monastery and referred their difference of Opinion to the Head of Monastery for clarity.... The Head listened to him in full, smiled and said,

"Dear! Your friend is living thru' his life well accepting his limitations and ever trying to do the best in the given situation but never left the basic works he had to do in life whatever be the turmoil in him.... You on the other hand, are trying to improve yourself beyond a Level where there is a Knot in your Understanding and thus are wasting your life in futile attempt to reach the point which is never reachable by you as the Understanding Level of Truth sure needed here a greater depth of Perception....Your duty in such circumstances is to first to live like a normal individual as the limitation is a fact with you and be doing those duties which have been assigned to you as per your Dharma.... Beyond that it is purely the Lord's Will and you should wait patiently for His Grace to descend on you and Bless you; nothing else is Sacred in this situation!"

The man bowed down to the Head, took leave from Him and and as he was leaving the Premises, he over heard on the Loudspeakers of the Monastery Slokas 6 and 7, Chapter 3 of Srimad Bhagavad Gita being recited melodiously with the meaning explained in parallel conveying the Sacred Message of Lord Krishna to Prince Arjuna....


'Karmendriyani samyam ya aste manasa smaran
Indriyaarthan vimudhatma mithyacarah sa ucyate

yas tv indriyani manasa niyamyarabhate rjuna 
Karmendriyaih karma-yogam asaktah sa visisyate'

'Any one who having controlled the five working sense organs remains still thinking within about sense objects only, is called a hypocrite (in life). But one who regulates the senses by the mind O Arjuna, begins the process of uniting the individual consciousness with the ultimate consciousness thru' the actions of the working sense organs without desire for the results is truly the Superior!'

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

WHO ELSE WOULD HAVE DONE THIS NOBLE TASK?


The smart daughter of the family had her own Specialty in her life.... In fact, from childhood she was a different girl....

When she was in her growing years the dad used to say to her, "We should always be conscious of our innate capabilities and productive work we do in our life.... That alone ultimately if not giving fortunes makes one stand in his / her life as the right individual of certain confidence and respect.... For that, start doing every small work of yours as much by yourself, study well and get a basic qualification to take up a job.... Beyond, depending on the circumstances improve yourself in that direction as much as possible!"

No doubt. those words truly became the basic guidelines for the beloved daughter.... She in time, started concentrating on the real meaning behind the message her dad given her and very much firmed up in keeping it up....

As the Saying goes.... 'A successful man builds his house with the stones thrown at him', the determined daughter too braved certain odds of life as every life may not be smooth all along, achieved what she wanted and thus finally settled with a good job and loving family with her.... And the Message of her dad too forever remained with her!

Years rolled by.... The daughter shifted away from her dad to the distant lands and she became busy in her own way....

In that time, there were a few other changes too.... The dad became a little loner, his age had created his own apprehensions with him and that soon reached a significant level where in he developed a habit of often ringing up and advising his daughter to be careful in life and thus constantly was after her welfare enquiry....

That created a contradictory message in his daughter and she often used to say with smile, 


"Dad! What is this ? You used to tell me not to be afraid of, stand on my legs at every step and feel confident and you are only now frequently advising me to be extra careful all along?"

The dad had no answer for that, used to smile and leave but never left that enquiry and advice....



As life moved on, all of a sudden there came up certain tense moments in the life of the daughter.... Naturally such situations do come in one's life as everything is not in our control and ultimately the Almighty alone has to bestow His Grace on us and we need to wait till the situation improves without losing our confidence....

As the daughter was exactly in the process of doing that, she was frequently getting calls from her dad who repeatedly used to say to be careful in going thru' the situation....

The stress and strain of those days, irritated her a bit and on a day she suddenly gave back saying, 

"Dad! We are doing our best here and taking every care.... The issues in front have to be resolved and our path in front has be cleared of certain hurdles.... We hope that to be taking place soon and everything will be streamlined.... In this context we have taken every care we were supposed to take and as on date things are on the right track..... What else we have to do now? Your repeated telling beyond can do nothing big here.... You should wait for a while!"

The dad agreed to what his daughter had said and promised not to trouble her further....

The talk ended thus and no doubt what the daughter said was very much correct but a strange question came up in her instantly... A very strange question that did not occur to her while she was in conversation with her dad....

Was that answer given to her dad required at all?

As she thought over further, uncontrolled tears rolled over her cheeks and she was totally in ruptures.... 

"What a haughty way I answered my dad? This very confidence with me today is totally built by him adding bit by bit in the years of my growing and made it full.... He alone laid the seed for this, nurtured it well in the initial stages thru' right support and protection and had seen that it reached its minimum level from where that could maintain by itself....

Naturally such a man will ever be interested to see that that Personality be ever safe and be happy in her active stage of life.... His inherent fears to any threat to that Personality are so natural that he is sure bound to follow up every bit there....

That way seen, my dad has every right to tell me a hundred times to be careful and I never have a right to ask him not to do that.... Further, it's always a noble gesture from my side to acknowledge the fact that he had given me everything when I was just nothing and made me today what I am and thus be thankful to him all my life without a say!"

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

LIFE IS TOO FUNNY!


### The gentleman of 50s was out on his bank work after a series of holidays....

As he entered the premises of the bank, he instantly noticed that the enclosed space of Bank was full of people and he had to wait outside for a while to just enter, subsequently had to wade thru' the crowd to reach his point, with certain difficulty had to grab a small space on the shared desk to fill in a few details on his Cheque with occasional push and pull from the side standing members invariably altering his writing a bit avoiding the same while signing with utmost difficulty....

Having finished the work there, he thought of having his favorite tea 
in the nearby Restaurant relaxing for a while....

To his dismay, as it was lunch time he found the Restaurant full of people taking their Lunch.... Forget about the sitting place, there was no space even at standing counters with the Cashier and Serving Personal not seen in their places as they were surrounded by people and people alone.... He instantly left the attempt and decided to return Home....

The Bus Stop was equally no better, full with unusual crowd after the long vacation along with School Children returning from Half day and there was no space even to stand in the Bus Stop Shelter.... The gentleman just waited to a side in the direct Sun for the City Bus to arrive....

3 Buses full of people in succession came in, stopped because they had to stop and moved on immediately with few strong ones trying to get in with great effort....No doubt, in time the Luxury Bus too arrived with all majesty but a look inside revealed again the same story.... Full with people standing all along the path way!

"Truly a bad day for me.... Appears, I got caught in the worst scenario!" cursing himself he walked a bit away from the maddening crowd in the Bus stop.... 


Suddenly a bus zoomed in and stopped just in front of him due to the extended signal waiting traffic beyond the Bus Stop Point.... The gentleman casually looked at the bus and to his utter surprise, he noticed a totally empty bus in front going to his very point of Alight starting from that point!   Unable to believe the coincidence, he quickly got in and occupied his favorite window seat as the first member in no time followed by flood of people running towards the bus from the Stop Point!

### The man of 40s was boasting himself quite often in respect of the care he took everywhere....

"It's just Maintenance.... Maintenance.... and Maintenance alone here and believe me, nothing else works!

  • "You get your Washing Machine overhauled periodically and that's it.... It never lets you down at any time in your life!
  • You be doing the periodic inside cleaning and defrosting to your Refrigerator, the Fridge works and looks as if  the New Piece purchased yesterday only!"
  • Just be replacing the Coolant of your Air conditioner in time and I guarantee, it will never let you lose your cool!
  • Get the Burners of your kitchen Stove washed and cleaned repeatedly, you will only see the blue flame beautifully glowing all the time!
  • Get your Car serviced every 6 months regularly without fail it keeps the vehicle running well on the road you smiling along with it!
  • Daily cleaning and  periodic dis tempering of your home surely keeps all the rodents and pests safely in their hideouts!
Suddenly, he fell ill seriously which was never expected and was recovering.... Some one who visited him was heard saying softly.... "All along the gentleman was so busy in maintaining his gadgets and home, he just forgot to maintain his own good health for a while!"

### The young man perspiring profusely had arrived at his destination saying aloud.... "My God, what a heat! I just walked 2 Kms in this scorching sun with this load thinking that it's nothing, but I'm gone... It's too tiring!"

The elderly of 60s said...."Dear! I too did the same an hr back and arrived here.... But it was OK!"

The young man was too amused, "What Sir?  At your age, you say that you were OK with all that strain?"

"Yes Dear!" the elderly said coolly.... "The only difference is.... I walked the distance slowly, resting a few times in between, drinking water in between, keeping the load with me down a few times again in between my stops and thus reached the place.... And that was sure OK for me, no problem!"

Saturday, April 4, 2015

A 'SORRY' IS NEVER AN 'ANSWER' HERE!


"Sir! This portion of work is completed.... I've already got the matter printed and today I am sending that material.........." briefed the Sr Manager to his Boss.....

"Thanks, Vignesh! Really you've done the job.... You know, how much we are off from a big problem for the present.... For the last one week, I was totally restless and....." the Boss applauded with a smile and continued...."But remember one thing.... Still the matter is not closed and we have to do......... When that comes up....... I don't know..... But for the present I feel, you have done...... OK! Thank you again.... Go ahead with your left out work.... I've got to go now!"

That evening, there was a call to the Sr Manager at his Residence from EA to GM....

"Hi!  Vignesh!  This is Ramesh speaking.... How are you doing? Sorry to call you at this moment.... Mr Vignesh! There is a small task for you and our GM is looking out for the right man to do this job....

Please listen carefully...... It's an important work for the next week...... A sort of crucial Client interaction.... You got it? We found you the right person for this job.... Hope you are OK with it......"


"Sir! I am already loaded with...."

"It's just for a week.... Later a bit here and there.... It's an opportunity too for you..... "

"OK! I'll adjust.... You can give my name!"

"Thanks, dear! Good night!"

Next day morning with the Boss....

"Sir! I just want to inform you....Yesterday had a call from GM's Office from his EA.....  There's a requirement, it seems.........."


"Yaar!  What is that you have agreed to?   If you go away, who will do my work then?"


"Sir!  I can manage both.... Am confident about that!"


"What are you talking?  I know, the moment you are into this, You will be loaded with tons of that work alone.... No, I can't allow this.... Let's go to GM immediately!"


The Sr Manger a bit a confused soon had to follow his Boss to the GM's Office.... The Boss briefed to GM what the work his Sr Manager was doing and how important it was for him to be totally on that job alone....


The GM was instantly confused, "Yaar!  What's this nonsense you are talking of?  If that is the case, your man should have clearly told that earlier to my EA....Why did he so happily agree to take up this?  Now, his name has gone to our Client and he accepted his Bid-data.... I can't displease the Customer by not sending him there!"


The Boss was firm.... "Sir!  I know the problem but I am equally helpless.... Here my work sure suffers.... Had he told me about this then and there, I would have simply stopped him from giving his name.... We just have to look for an alternative now!"


The GM's anger knew no bounds....


"What Vignesh?  What answer do you have to me and to your Boss now?  Can you please give your explanation?"


"I'm sorry Sir!  It was purely my mistake alone.... I should have discussed the matter with him before giving a word to you.... I feel bad.... Extremely Sorry, Sir...."


The GM was in rage..."What my dear?  Do you think, you can just get away here by simply saying 'Sorry?'   I think it's time you face some music of the situation.... I can't take it lighter any more...." jumping thus, he instantly called his PA to his Room and said, "Get me the Personal File of Mr Vignesh right now on to my Table.... Need to do something and set his matters a bit straight..... It appears, he doesn't understand the situation.... My house is on fire!"

Friday, April 3, 2015

'THE IDEAL' vs 'THE PRACTICAL!'


The young man mused...."These are the dozen Principles of Living my life in this world.... Why not I stick to these 12 to the core and thus live my life here on the earth happily?  The Great men of the earth forever advocated all these without an exception!"

"Speak truth!"

"Work hard!"
"Eat minimum!"

"Be simple!'
"Be open!"
"Be accommodative!"

"Respect others!"
"Pardon others!"
"Help others!"

"Never criticize!"
"Never feel weak!"
"Never lose hope!"

The elderly wise man  countered those Musings saying.... "These are no doubt, the great Principles of Living on the earth ever advocated but when it comes to the practical living of my life, I should ever remember that I have a 'body' which sure responds to pain and threat soon and beyond a level invariably yields.... Why not one out of true Wisdom, be practical in living simultaneously sticking to these Principles to the best possible?  My corrections to the young man's Musings invariably go thus.....

"Speak Truth but save yourself too along with it!"
"Work hard but equally rest/relax too invariably!"
"Eat minimum but eat to your satisfaction level too!"

"Be simple but have a standard life too with you!"
"Be open but let the right secret be too kept without fail!"
"Be accommodative but have no burden too on yourself simultaneously!"

"Respect everyone but never start pleasing others extra in the process!"
"Pardon others but never do that out of a inherent weakness in you!"
"Help others but never encourage thru' that an ease in others!"

"Never criticize but equally never forget to assert the constructive part of it!"
"Never feel weak but equally never forget the presence of the physical weakness level within and around you!"
"Never lose hope but equally never forget that between a cup and lip there can be many slips!"

To confirm on what said by the elderly wise man, Sloka 35  of Chapter 3 of Srimad Bhavad Gita was heard from distance being recited melodiously with the relevant meaning explained in parallel....


Shreyan swadharmo vigunah paradharmaat swanusshthitaat
Swadharme nidhanam shreyah paradharmo bhayaavahah..
 


'Ever safe is one’s own duty than the duty of another even well discharged…. Better is even death in one’s own duty than the duty of another full of fear!"

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

'PROGRESSIVE LESSONS' OR 'BULLYING?'


The boy of 14 yrs just cried a little bit…. 

"Do you still cry like a kid?  You are going to be an adult in a year or two….  Stop doing that and start behaving like a grown up boy!” a well-wisher pointed out instantly….


"The other boy had hit me for not listening to him!" the boy was in tears not knowing what to answer....

Time moved on.... The same boy was the then young man of 22 in the next 8 yrs…. As usual, he was showing off his style and ease….

“Hi! What is this behavior still?  You should be taking up some responsibilities of life at this age….Have you seen? Some of your friends are already doing….....” in no time, he was squarely commented upon….


"What's wrong with me?  I wanted to dress up smart and........." he murmured....

The same young man soon became a little responsible individual when he had grown to 30 years….

“The problem with the present day people of your age is that they think themselves as still twenty years old.... At your age, I was having around me so much to do, so many things to answer, no time to breath ….” he was rebuked by the worried parent for certain lapses on his behalf…. 


"You don't allow me to do a little on my own!  Every where Sermons and Sermons only!" the then man of thirties was complaining....

Such a man had become fully responsible and grown to a man of 40s in the next 10 yrs….


“I will say that you are very much careless in your actions.... For a man of your age, I should be seeing here, the Right Personality guiding youngsters on crucial issues and behaving like…....” the Boss was jumping on him on a day when he acted a bit odd….

"These people should be firmly told back.... No guiding and advising will help here" replied the forty years man very much asserting his actions but hurt within....


Soon that man alone was a good Guide and Mentor when he touched fifties of his life…. On a fine day, he just lost his cool and was a little more noisy for a while....

“Hello dear!  Do you still talk and argue like this even at your age of greying hairs? You should control yourself, man…. Do you see how others looked at you when you had lost your temper….....” a Senior Colleague cautioned him…. 


"Yeah! This man too had lost his control the other day.... Now he is advising Me! Limit to the hypocrisy!" vented out the man his anger at Tea time with his colleagues....


Finally, he was a man of matured personality guiding many people on many issues, solving the most crucial problems at work and in life and coolly retired from his Service on a particular day…. Post retirement, he was at home for a few days taking rest.… 

“You are not that much old to sit at home doing nothing…. People of your age are doing so many things running around with their own plans and schedules…. Your that friend who retired a year ago is a very active man today and looks like a man of fifties only.... You should get into some job and start doing something…......” were soon the words of advice constantly heard around from all the active family members!